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  Why I may not be able to sleep with anyone again

  by ballistic in

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  along with finding my favorite arm-chair and coffee mug, growing (slightly) older has brought on some curious sleeping habits.. for some time now, i have been in the habit of positioning four pillows in the shape of an arrow and sleeping with my head nestled in the middle supporting shoulders, on my back, with arms and legs stretched out across the whole bed (like a star-fish).

  i also have a king size quilt which i use all of.

  there is now even a slight dip in the centre of the bed where i sleep in the middle.. has any other single people got any curious habits they would find difficult to give up?

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  I talk in my sleep too - like darkuncle - only for me it's French, sometimes asstd. nonsense in English (there's a dog on the roof!) and sometimes I laugh or giggle if I'm a good mood. I tend to get really warm sleeping with someone else, too - wake up kind of overheated and it keeps me from sleeping really well. Of course, that wakes up the other person.
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  Need to Reach DarkUncle Today (Thursday)!!

  by kitties_and_horses_oh_my! in

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  hey all - i'm trying to reach darkuncle, i lost his phone # when i switched cell phones and i sent him a pm today but i don't know that he'll check his msgs today.

  does anyone know how to reach him?

  kitties

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  Hey all - I'm trying to reach DarkUncle, I lost his phone # when I switched cell phones and I sent him a PM today but I don't know that he'll check his msgs today. Does anyone know how to reach him?

  THANKS!!!!

  Kitties
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  Platonic Friendships....

  by diamondblue1974 in

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  there are some conflicting views on this subject; when i was a teenage jw i was friends with someone of the opposite sex and we were the best of mates...nothing sexual, no attraction in that department at all but it was frowned upon by those in the congregation (as you can probably imagine).. my ex wife never believed a man and woman could be just platonic...hence no longer with her...but..now being somewhat older (and a teeny bit wiser .

  what do you think though, do you think a man and woman can be just friends and more importantly has this view been changed since leaving the jw's?.

  db

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  As a dub, I did think that sex would always be an issue. But now I have a number of male friends I adore but I would never, ever want to sleep with any of them. I didn't think that could be possible, but it is.

  Kitties
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  What's your greatest coincidence?

  by ozziepost in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  well, haven't you had things happen and you just know they're not accidental ...... or are they?

  some people don't 'believe' there are such things as coincidences but whatever, what's the greatest of coincidences that has ever happened to you?

  kinda like "what's the most coincidental of coincidences", eh?

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  I decided to go back to school and ditched my god-awful job in the middle of the night. Then I started working nights doing janitorial b/c it worked with my school schedule, but god it was hell. I'd go to the bookstore and study/sleep till they closed at 11, then force myself to go to work.

  One Monday I get a call from a mental-health services agency that I'd applied for prior to getting the first job I mentioned (the one I ditched). They'd hired someone else but she'd quit. I looked at my computer and out of the dozens of cover letters I'd sent out, this was the only one I'd saved. I went in for an interview that day, armed with the knowledge of exactly the spin I'd put on my work & school history in the letter I'd sent previously.

  Tuesday I was at the bookstore and had my legs over the side of the chair I was in. I fell asleep (I would be lucky to sleep for 2-3 hours during the night, so I was constantly falling asleep anytime I dared to sit down) and an employee woke me up when they were closing. I stood up - both my legs had gone to sleep, and I fell. Half-asleep and embarrassed, I tried to stand up again, fell again, and this time there was a loud "crack." My foot was broken, and badly. I quit my janitorial job that night (can't mop if you can't walk, you know?).

  The next day I was offered the job at the mental-health agency. They were thrilled that I could start right away b/c the 2-week notice I would have given my other job wasn't an issue since my foot was broken.

  I've been there now since October of 2003. It is, bar none, the best job I could ever have dreamed of. I love it! My boss is amazing, my co-workers are great, I have almost complete autonomy when it comes to my schedule and how I manage my responsibilities. Oh, and I'm a Psych major, so not only am I lucky to be working in the Psych field but I've been given permission to publish our programs results as a research study for an undergrad competition.

  Jehovah provides! (Oh, um, wait, I hadn't been going to meetings for a year at that point...okay, better rethink this one...)

  -Kitties
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  Are you Living or Existing?

  by Golf in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  does your life have a purpose or are you just existing?

  over the years i've learned to extract the good out of bad situations and it has given me a different perspective on life.

  life is all about learning.

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  Squinks, your comment, "I think I am afraid to make deep friendships" is so true among the witnesses. How many have experienced so-called friendship/s and then when you slip and fall short of the glory of God, they cast you away?
  ....The org. has deprived children to be children. Your only a child once and you should have that 'right' to be a child! This is an area I find the Org. very guilty.
  

  Golf,

  I've thought similar things fairly often of late. I was having a bad night last night and trying to explain this exact thing to my husband, and the thing is that as a witness you almost lose the ability to connect. It's not so much a conscious decision. I have great friends but, at the same time, I do keep a distance that if they walked away tomorrow and never looked back, I'd be okay, probably think "hmm, okay, thats odd" but I'd be fine. And it's not about not being open or perhaps even trying to establish a connection; you just have just shut down at some point and like I said, it's not a conscious decision. I think it might sound harsh that people who I share my life with, dear friends, that I just can't feel emotion towards them - respect, admiration, desire for their happiness, worry for them, those things yes - but that actual point where it crosses the threshold of needing them, it just doesn't happen. My husband says that if I don't learn how - insert poetic waxing here about giving up fear and living despite being vulnerable etc etc - I will never feel whole.

  But really, how would you choose to "make a deep friendship" as the quote says above? And I just don't think it's about sharing activities or stories about your past or even about what you think might be nice for the future. I do all those things, pretty open, but the actual caring just is like a switch that has been turned off. It's cliche I suppose to say "well my parents don't love me and my witness friends don't talk to me" blah blah blah, we can all commiserate about how much we've been hurt, but I've never had all of that get me anywhere - not that I don't revert to it on occasion.

  So hmm, what makes a deep friendship come into being? And if it does, how do you stop yourself from destroying it? You know, the inevitable "this is going to end badly so I will just end it now b/c the waiting is almost worse."

  Back to the original "living or existing" question - it varies for me. I think it does for everyone.

  - Kitties
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  Saw my JW parents yesterday. Dad not doing well. Neither am I!

  by BrendaCloutier in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this place has helped me to "face" my parents.

  actually, get off of the "oh they hurt me sooo much" and go see them, again.. http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/79128/1.ashx older thread on reunion with my parents.

  they are 87. my dad has been diabetic for 40 years and has lost the lower portion of both legs.

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  Hey sweetie,

  The few times I've met your dad he was a firecracker, very smart and interesting. I'm really sorry that you're going through this. I don't know what else to say, just here's a hug and lots of love.

  Kitties
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  When the March KM article is read

  by IP_SEC in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  so when this article is read about the monthly awake, it's supose to be good news right, simplification, bla bla bla.

  is anyone planning on clapping when it is announced?

  i'm kinda half seriously contemplating it?

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  This is actually pretty damn hilarious - they pulled the same crap with the "donation arrangement." Basically, see a way to make money/save money/avoid taxes, whatever, it's always money in the end, and then conjure up a scriptural, Biblical, "this is Jehovah's channel" line of reasoning to cover over the money issue. Next, pat yourself on the back as the poor confused "sheep" fall all over themselves trying to believe you. Wow, I think somebody's getting off on this!

  Kitties
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  When you think noone will ever see you...

  by Kaethra in

  1. social
  2. humour

  ...do you do stuff like this?

  this kid cracks me up!

  the song is annoyingly catchy too.. .

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  This guy's hilarious - he's great! LMAO Totally made me smile.

  Kitties
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  Lawyer Is Guilty of Aiding Terror (Women, When Are We Going to Wake Up??)

  by kitties_and_horses_oh_my! in

  1. social
  2. current

  http://www.nytimes.com/2005/02/11/nyregion/11stewart.html?8br

  lynne f. stewart, an outspoken lawyer known for representing a long list of unpopular defendants, was convicted yesterday by a federal jury in manhattan of aiding islamic terrorism by smuggling messages out of jail from a terrorist client.

  in a startlingly sweeping verdict, ms. stewart was convicted on all five counts of providing material aid to terrorism and of lying to the government when she pledged to obey federal rules that barred her client, sheik omar abdel rahman, from communicating with his followers.

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  Don't make this a womans issue. She is a lawyer who did what she could and broke the law and putting the national security of this country in jeapardy for her client (and ultimately, money).

  Fair enough. I just made the connection in my mind between her and the women I'd read about who risked their freedom to run drugs for these men in South America b/c they thought they were in love. And maybe she did risk national security for money, but I would be surprised if she wasn't somewhat taken by this man. I mean, she had to have known she was gonna get in trouble. Really, she's a lawyer, unless she just thought she was so smart she could beat anything. She was blatent about her behavior, and that speaks to me of a feeling behind it that is stronger than money. Kitties
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  Gucci mullet??

  by kitties_and_horses_oh_my! in

  1. social
  2. current

  besides the sumptuous silk moire suits and damasked velvet slippers, many of the gucci male models strutted down the runways in an updated 1999 version of the mullet hairstyle for men.

  i swear, i did not go looking for this!

  i just happened across it and thought, wow, there's a *gucci* mullet?

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  kitties_and_horses_oh_my!

  Besides the sumptuous silk moire suits and damasked velvet slippers, many of the Gucci male models strutted down the runways in an updated 1999 version of the Mullet hairstyle for men.

  I swear, I did not go looking for this! I just happened across it and thought, wow, there's a *Gucci* mullet? Isn't that a contradiction in terms??
  

  http://www.hairboutique.com/tips/tip288.htm

  Oh, crap, I kept reading the article....this is even worse. Wow.

  Ew. Okay, I've got to find a more pleasant and productive activity. Like, well, anything. Anything at all.

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  Okay, I'm still reading. Sigh.

  the Mullet is controversial because society has often held the opinion that long hair on men was anarchic

  That is so *not* the reasoon. Nobody thinks a mullet is anarchic (is that the right way to even say the word? It's 4:48 a.m., I am not looking it up, cope!) Hello, the reason people hate is cause it's hideous. I'm not sure that's really even controversial.

  Okay, I am moving on now, I'm done editing this post!

  -Kitties (of the "wow, I really need to get a life at this point" class)