Posts by Abaddon

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Not allowed to sleep over - is that weird?

by collegegirl21 in

okay, so my guy and i have been together for 10 months and we usually are ok together.

but there is something that has been getting to me and i think its unusual, but please correct me if i'm wrong - he won't let me sleep over at his house.

and he hardly ever stays at my house, he's maybe stayed here 3 times in our whole relationship.

Abaddon

Hey collegegirl,

Having been a collegeboy and been out with collegegirls and had friends who were collegegirls I'd say the following;

Most girls at college go out with at least some guys who are not worth wasting the time on. They do this either because they feel bad about themselves, even if this is only to the extent of doubting their ability to enjoy life without a boyfriend until they find another guy worth spending time with in that way or their ability to attract such a guy, or because they are with a guy who sucks them so far into their own psychodrama the girl can't see they're asting their time anymore.

Someone who confuses sleeping over (just plain old manners) to commitment is not worth wasting time on. Not sleeping over (for no reason) is one step removed from leaving cash on the pillow.

Someone who has the gall to call you on being insecure when they have a psychological condition (the OCD stuff) is not worth wasting time on.

I think you will discover more about yourself away from this guy; you're not responsible for his life being the best it could, only for your life being the best it can be, and I don;t think it can be with your current guys unless he sorts his act out.

Realise that most guys your age are about five years less mature than you simply because they have testicles. Realise that you don't HAVE to have a boyfriend, and that not having a boyfriend is NOT THE SAME as being celibate. Realise the more guys you have experience of (and I don't just mean sexually), the better choices you will make where guys are concerned as you will be able to better differentiate between time wasters and keepers; you will also know better in practise what kind of guy suits you better - this might be different from what you think/have thought.

Number of female friends I have seen spending months, even years, trying to turn a sows ear into a silk purse I cannot even begin to count. You are young, cut your lossses early and have some fun.

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A few questions for the Brits!

by smellsgood in

jw
friends

so, have i heard right?

do you guys get free health, dental care?

including like, orthodontia, braces which cost roughly $5,000 w/o insurance in the americas, usually half with?

Abaddon

Do you guys get free health,

Yes. If you are working you pay "National Health Insurance", so it isn't actually 'free', just a National Heath Service. In Holland (where I now live) it's the same; if you're working a fee of about $115 covers you for all essential health care and far more. What distiniguishes the Dutch and British sysems from the US is that those on no or limited incomes can walk into an ordinary hospital and get the same service they would as if they ad been working. Those on normal incomes with big medical costs will almost always get the treatment they need.

As it is a public service, cutting edge treatments or very expensive drug therapy is sometimes not available in the UK unless it meets certain cost-benefit requirements. This nomally only hits the elderly and those who will probably die anyway as it is considered better to improve the quality of life of those with many years left than those with few years left (if a choice has to be made due to limited funds), but then again, you can go private.

dental care? Including like, Orthodontia, braces which cost roughly $5,000 w/o insurance in the Americas, usually half with?

Not sure about Orthodontics; I think maybe if you are on a limited income you get this free/subsidised. Basic dental work is subsidised, check-ups are free (I think).

Are your tuition fees below 2,000 pounds? I saw a bit on the BBC World where Students were PROTESTING fees "jacked" up to around 1,200 pounds??? Was I hearing that number wrong? Was it only for certain schools? It would be so unheard of cheap to me!!

Yes.

Are your petrol costs the equivalent of 6$, around 3 pounds, or are they 6 pounds, around $12??

In the UK petrol is 98p per litre, so $1.96 a litre, $8.63 per US gallon.

Do you like the way us Yankees talk?

I think what you are trying to say is 'Do you like the way that Yankees talk?', meaning North-East dialect as distinct from Southern, Mid-Western, West-Coast or other varients. Well, it can be, I think the word is 'cute', but it can also be a bit hard on the ears and let's not talk about grammar, eh? 'Us' English are fussy about that

Which is your favourite American fast food chain 'import'? Do you have Wendy's? Burger King? TGIF (I know Tokyo has them!) Applebees, Olive Garden?

'Favourite', 'American' and 'Fast-Food' are three words I would not put in the same sentence. Wendy's are good but unknown over here; there was one in London once. Burger King and McD's are endemic - at least you can pretend that Burger King is real food. Hard Rock Cafe is the nearest thing to good I can think of as an American food chain you can get here.

What's your favourite American t.v. show, if any?

At this moment, House.

What's your favourite British accent? :)

That of Mrs Eileen Puddersley of 57 Middlemarch Lane, Droitwitch.

How do you feel about David Beckham being a part of American football, soccer now??? What about his wife, do you like her?

Could not give a flying fig about Beckham or his scrawny bint.

Pip pip!

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Guys, do you lay your wifi laptop on your lap?

by Elsewhere in

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friends

one of the things i enjoy most about wifi is the way i can sit in my favorite living room recliner and surf the web while watching spongbob.

i was just sitting here browsing around the web when it suddenly occurred to me: am i microwaving my "boys"?

has anyone heard if there is are, ahem, "manly" dangers to using a laptop on the lap?

Abaddon

OK, go to 'Start', 'All Programs' and look for the 'Common Sense' Application.

R U the only male doing this?

Has this been happening for enough years for a wave of fertility issues confined to male laptop users with WiFi to be detected?

If the answers to the above are not enough, consider;

In a recent experiment, people who claimed to be extra sensitive to mobile phone masts were found to be unable to tell whether they were on or off, but if they thought they were on they still felt ill and manifested physiological symptoms.

Not one cluster of illness related to mobile phone masts has been proven to any satisfactory level or scientific rigour.

The best longitiudinal (over time) studies to date have not found any linkage between mobile phone use and and health issues in normal usage. 'Continual' usage for ten years or more might have a very small chance of giving you a brain tumour.

Workers in ocupations that exposed them to high RF radiation in the past 50 years have provided no evidence of increased occupational health risks, apart from one or two people who accidentally cooked themselves in freak accidents.

WiFi access points and cards et. al use power levels at most 10% as high as the most powerful modern cell phones, more usually around 2%.

Basically, you are more at risk from tight jeans or underwear. and the heat of a laptop's other innards raising the temperature of your balls to one unsuited to spermatogensis, than the minute thermal load of a WFi connection, or any other RF risks of the same.

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Does your boss have a right to call you on vacation?

by TresHappy in

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two weeks ago, i went on a family vacation.

there was a voice mail on my cell phone from my boss.

i didn't respond to it.

Abaddon

They have the right to call.

I have the right to ignore the call. One client's an old woman (as in whinginging moaner), and I just tend to ignore his calls.

Normally I answer, and have ended up with an extra days leave for a half hours work helping my boss out. I think this might have something to do with the level of disapproval I can generate down a phone line.

In total it's been maybe six phone calls in five years vacations (and this being Europe that's six months holiday over five years, so not bad), and I'm a Manager so I need to suck it up as an emergency is, well, an emergency. Only exception was this year when there were two small tasks partially completed when I left that I needed and expected to be contacted on during the first couple of days.

But for lower down the ladder it's an impostion.

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The Ghost Dance and the Slaughter at Wounded Knee

by frankiespeakin in

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the peaceful ghost dance started by by desparate indians hoping for freedom, from the the greedy white man and his government caught on and was adopted by many tribes which frightened the us government that an uprising was in the making which was brought to an abrut end in the slaughter at wounded knee i have collected several renditions:.

i did not know then how much was ended.

when i look back now from this high hill of my old age, i can still see the butchered women and children lying heaped and scattered along the crooked gulch as plain as when i saw them with eyes still young.

Abaddon

It is interesting to note that the Jack Wilson or Wovoka, the Paiute founder of the 'Dance In A Circle' had his original, pacifistic, co-operative intentions supplanted as his new idiation of the traditional circle dance spread to other tribes. He believed "all evil in the world would be swept away leaving a renewed Earth filled with food, love, and faith".

The Lakota seemed to take a more radical slant on it, believing (as anyone who has read Black Elk Speaks knows) that it would cause the white man to be swep away. As westerners first contact with the movement was through the Lakota we call it by what they called it. It's adoption frighten ignorent and brutish reservation supervisors. Yet another tragedy followed on from that.

See wiki for details

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Responding To Posters With An Agenda, Who Won't Listen To Reason

by minimus in

jw
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why do we do it??

?

Abaddon

Why?

Boredom
Mischeviousness
Using the idiot as a teaching aide for lurkers
Coz I like arguing

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What Have You Purchased Thru The Internet?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i'm not a big fan of internet shopping.

what about you?

Abaddon

Books, CD's, DVD's, a camera, a range cooker, a chicken coop, airline tickets, a package holiday, train tickets, concert tickets, condoms, sex toys.

Never had any problems. My magic rabbit's foot allows me full SSL-VPN point-to-point encryption using a 1,024 bit Blowfish algorhtym...

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What's your take on "faith healing" ...

by Frequent_Fader_Miles in

jw
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does it really happen, or is it a fake?.

know anyone personally who was cured by a faith healer?.

Abaddon

r.a.m.

but I'd never go on tv because you don't through pearls before swine.

Don't you think you are being a little self-rightous to define anyone who might watch TV as swine?

Do you have a TV? LOL.

And anyway, you hide behind the 'testing god' defence.

He tests us, so why not test him? LOL.

In any case, people in a double blind experiment would not as individuals be testing god.

You would have two groups of people; those who pretended to be ill and those who were ill, as classified by medical doctors beforehand.Each group would have even numbers of believers, cynics and agnostics. They would be healed by two groups of people, one group of actors peteding to heal, another of claimed real healers.

The people oberving would not know if the people were ill or the healers were real. The healers would not know if the peope were ill, the people would not know if their healer was real.

You would collate the statistics and perform a longitudinal (over time) study of the people to see if they got better. It is an astoundingly simple experiment to design, and it is down to the believers to put experimental data where their mouths are if they want to be taken seriously.

So, no one testirng god but nasty scientists who do that anyway. The belivers would be genuine in their belief and expectations.

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Have/Do you 'fake' orgasms?

by AK - Jeff in

the theme of last nites 'seinfeld' rerun.

it was a hoot!.

well.... do you fake them?.

Abaddon

Easy, you just teach it to spit on command...

Seriously? Running dry happens, multiple male orgasms (where only the last one is wet) happen, but they are still orgasms.

I have heard guys claim they faked it (whilst wearing a condom) so they could go to sleep, but have never had sex quite that bad.

It is also far harder for women to fake orgasms than often thought, if you know your sexual female physiology.

Noise is no indication; some girls are silent as the grave until the moment of truth (a little off-putting the first time you sleep with them), others make loads of noise until they come and then not only stop making noise but also stop breathing for what seems like ages (again, a little off-putting the first time, especially for them when you start CPR), I don't know any way a man or woman (yes women can too) can fake ejaculation short of camera tricks, but you can normally feel the pelvic contractions, and the strength and regularity is just different to when it is deliberate.

Re.spam. Okay, I can understand the Viagra et. el spam; problems in that area can not be nice. I can understand the attraction of claims for pills that make you longer (although like the rest of male humanity would deny any need) - and if I responded to every lengthening spam I got (do they know something I don't?) I could make love to female members of JWD in New York without leaving my desk in Holland.

But what is it with these spams that offer to double the volume of your ejaculate? Never, ever has any woman said "oh, that was nice, but I'd like you to have more sperm". At least not to me... and I don't think this is due to me having nuts like a chimpanzee.

Any guys had complaints or girls made complaints about the volume of sperm?

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What's your take on "faith healing" ...

by Frequent_Fader_Miles in

jw
friends

does it really happen, or is it a fake?.

know anyone personally who was cured by a faith healer?.

Abaddon

In view of the past failure of those who believe in it to ever demonstrate it in a manner that a science journal or court of law would aoccept as satisfactory proof

In view of the failure of those who believe in it to set up a simple double-blind test that woul determine whether it had any beneficial effect

In view of the proven fact people are able to feel better or worse according to how they think they should feel, even down to the level of measurable physiological responses

... I "take it" as wishful thinking, that despite being 100% moonshine actually seems to work for some people sometimes because they believe it will.

I'm quite happy for those who believe in it to believe in it, but won't patronise them by lying to them that I do too. I hope I get afforded the same latitude.