This if for Tiffy. You need to call an attorney. Explain your situation and ask for referals to organizations for women experiencing changes in their lives. You have a right to half your assets. I know they may not be many if your husband has always been in the organization and you may not own a home or have a retirement plan. I'm wishing you the best.
Cognac, it sounds like you're doing all you possibly can to make your relationship work. I'm wishing you the best, too.
Emma