i have two more dates this week.
keeping track of who is who and showing them a "genuine" interest has been fun to say the least.
i can prepare for each "return visit" in advance and take notes after each date.. so is this ethical?.
Oh dear,
The consensus seems to be to have mutiple dates. I have just replied to about four guys the following.
"Thank you for your interest. I have just been asked out on a couple of dates this week, if there are no sparks I will let you know. I am afriad I will not be answering any more messages today"
I have all good lucks in response.
Okay I am readjusting my strategy after reading the advice
Kate xx
i have two more dates this week.
keeping track of who is who and showing them a "genuine" interest has been fun to say the least.
i can prepare for each "return visit" in advance and take notes after each date.. so is this ethical?.
That's enough info Sparrow, I get the ball park. Kate xx
i am on three or four sites and lots of guys are showing an interest and trying to be genuine.
it reminds me of being love bombed by the jws.
i am having so much fun and loving all the attention, i almost got carried away with it all, until i got a pm on jwn.. i have just been absorbing it all and it dawned on me i am still vulnerable, and possibly not ready to date.
Zed,
I am confident about myself, just not sure I can spot someone controlling on the first couple of dates. Controlling men hide it well if they're intelligent. Just like the WT, they give one message to the public and another to the members and yet another to elders. It's all about control, and intelligent men introduce control in stages with out it even being noticed.
Kate xx
i am on three or four sites and lots of guys are showing an interest and trying to be genuine.
it reminds me of being love bombed by the jws.
i am having so much fun and loving all the attention, i almost got carried away with it all, until i got a pm on jwn.. i have just been absorbing it all and it dawned on me i am still vulnerable, and possibly not ready to date.
Thanks xx
i have two more dates this week.
keeping track of who is who and showing them a "genuine" interest has been fun to say the least.
i can prepare for each "return visit" in advance and take notes after each date.. so is this ethical?.
Trouble with being exclusive too soon it places too much pressure on yourself and other the person before you are ready.IMO.-Sparrow
Good point. I am dating to have fun not to be pressured. Pressure equals stress, not fun.
That's good advice. How old are you Sparrow? PM me if you want it to be confidential.
Kate xx
i am on three or four sites and lots of guys are showing an interest and trying to be genuine.
it reminds me of being love bombed by the jws.
i am having so much fun and loving all the attention, i almost got carried away with it all, until i got a pm on jwn.. i have just been absorbing it all and it dawned on me i am still vulnerable, and possibly not ready to date.
I am on three or four sites and lots of guys are showing an interest and trying to be genuine. It reminds me of being love bombed by the JWs. I am having so much fun and loving all the attention, I almost got carried away with it all, until I got a PM on JWN.
I have just been absorbing it all and it dawned on me I am still vulnerable, and possibly not ready to date. I have to get off cloud nine and see the attetion as just fake love bombing. I don't know if I am really ready, but if I don't get out there, buy nice clothes and put effort into getting ready for dates I will never be ready.
I have some concerns that I will end up with a destructive guy again, he was controlling just like WT. I am struggling to keep the bad memories out of my mind this morning.
Do I need more time to recover from WT before I move on?
i have two more dates this week.
keeping track of who is who and showing them a "genuine" interest has been fun to say the least.
i can prepare for each "return visit" in advance and take notes after each date.. so is this ethical?.
I have two more dates this week. Keeping track of who is who and showing them a "genuine" interest has been fun to say the least. I can prepare for each "return visit" in advance and take notes after each date.
So is this ethical?
Well to develop friendships you can be genuine with multiple friends. It's natural to have a few close friends. But to do this in respect of a love interest is not being genuine. I have decided if I get asked for a second date and there is enough of a spark for me to accept, then I will not date anyone else.
Then after a couple of months I should know if there are any alarm bells going off. If not I will remove myself from the sites and stop going on them.
IMO it's not ethical to go on multiple dates.
What do you think?
Kate xx
robert j ingersoll on the great voltaire:.
"it has been claimed by the christian critics that voltaire was irreverent; that he examined sacred things without solemnity; that he refused to remove his shoes in the presence of the burning bush; that he smiled at the geology of moses, the astronomical ideas of joshua, and that the biography of jonah filled him with laughter.
they say that these stories, these sacred impossibilities, these inspired falsehoods, should be read and studied with a believing mind in humbleness of spirit; that they should be examined prayerfully, asking god at the same time to give us strength to triumph over the conclusions of our reason.
Well I have a different perspective, when I post I try to refer to them as WT, instead of the BOrg. I think it could put of some lurkers who are doubting, it may rienforce their indoctrination. What does any one think?
Kate xx
well i joined two dating sites yesterday and i have had lots of messages.
a couple of guys want to chat to me by phone to get to know me better.
i've been asked out on two dates.
I have to say, at least the guys in my age range, most of them are pitiful.-FHN
Well I think your age range about the same as mine, and there are plenty to choose from. I can't keep up with the amount of emails I am getting. You'll have to help me weed them out FHN, are you on skype? We can chat properly then
Kate xx
well i joined two dating sites yesterday and i have had lots of messages.
a couple of guys want to chat to me by phone to get to know me better.
i've been asked out on two dates.
Well what a day I have had there are so many guys on line, I have got more dates now. I don't know how many guys I am messaging it's that many. One site I got 66 messages in 2 hours chatting to three or more guys at the same time, two got my number and one asked me on a date, the other one is half way there.
They guy I went out with today was really sweet and nice, no real spakrs though. But I like him, he has been texting me and messaging me since that date too.
All these guys seem really keen.
I am having the time of my life though. It's keeping me alert and mentally focused. One guy even said I passed the intelligence test, he's putting in real effort finding Mrs right good for him
I will keep you updated guys
Kate xx
