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imallgrowedup
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What Was Your Opinion Of Ronald Reagan???
by minimus indid you love him, hate him or not care one way or another because at the time you were "neutral"?
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Different Roads
by simplesally in"people take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness.
just because they're not on your road doesn't mean they've gotten lost.
" (h. jackson brown, jr.) .
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imallgrowedup
Sally,
I can understand why you get frustrated! It is difficult to hear the same complaint but not see anything change! Perhaps you can try the same tactic - just tell him that you don't feel like you are being a part of the solution and it is frustrating for you, but you will be his his number one cheerleader when he has made steps towards actually making changes that will bring about the results he desires! Then change the subject....!
Just a thought.... good luck to you!
:-)
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Love Is... The Meaning of Life!
by FMZ in"one word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.
" sophocles (496 bc - 406 bc).
love is as old and timeless as life itself.
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It takes very little, but comes back to you in spades......
Once you know how to give that, it will be returned to you unconditionally.
I hate to be the party pooper in the crowd here, but IMHO, this is not necessarily true. One can not make another love them. I don't understand how "it comes back to you" - especially in the case of unrequitted love - unless it is through some kind of divine "reward". For example, I don't see my neighbor falling all over me because I love(d) someone who doesn't love back. It doesn't work that way. So - are these logical premeses which prove a divine love, or a warm and fuzzy pipe dream?!
Inquiring Minds Want to Know!
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Where are you on the map? New Maps
by Lady Lee inok there are so many americans on the map now i had to split you all in half.. valis was kind enough to let me place the maps on his website until i found a new home for them.. photobucket seems to be a good option - at least for now.
so i have uploaded the new maps which have been updated to include everyone who has asked.. so if you were wondering where we are from.
or how close you are to other jwd posters in your area just take a look.
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imallgrowedup
SD -
(((imallgrowedup)))
I suppose NOW you're going to claim to be a "nutcracker"!!!!!
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Where are you on the map? New Maps
by Lady Lee inok there are so many americans on the map now i had to split you all in half.. valis was kind enough to let me place the maps on his website until i found a new home for them.. photobucket seems to be a good option - at least for now.
so i have uploaded the new maps which have been updated to include everyone who has asked.. so if you were wondering where we are from.
or how close you are to other jwd posters in your area just take a look.
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imallgrowedup
Hey LL!
These maps are so fun to look at! Thanks for working on them! Please add me to Northern CA - but be sure to keep me away from Sirius Dogma *whispers* I hear there are nuts in his neck of the woods!!!
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What makes marraiges last
by desib77 inmy husband and i have been married a little over a year now and it has been the happiest year of my life.
i have finally found someone that i truly love and that truly loves me.
he's also my best friend.
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imallgrowedup
LOL @ LT!!
Are there any respectable men out there?!!!
Aren't those terms mutually exclusive???
Apparently, only when they wear kilts........!
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Different Roads
by simplesally in"people take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness.
just because they're not on your road doesn't mean they've gotten lost.
" (h. jackson brown, jr.) .
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imallgrowedup
Sally,
That is a hard situation to be in, especially when you really love the person who is not taking your advice. I think it comes down to this: Did the person ASK your advice to begin with, or did you simply offer it? If they asked, and told you they would do exactly what you suggested, did the two of you agree on a timeframe? Sometimes we get frustrated with people because we think they should take our advice immediately, and often times, they are simply not ready to do so. Often times, people (especially women) come to their friends for support only - not to have their problem solved. Many times, they just want someone to validate them and/or their feelings. They really do not want to make any changes - or - they are simply not ready to, so when we offer advice, it is naturally going to be ignored. At first, it isn't too hard to be the supportive friend, but I agree with you that it does get frustrating after a while when you keep hearing the same thing over and over again. Perhaps you might want to ask your friend the next time she starts in if she is "just venting" or if she is asking your advice. If she is "just venting", and you just can't bring yourself to listen to another session of the same-old-same-old, perhaps you can find a way to let her know that you love her and want her to be happy, and that you want to help her make whatever changes she needs in order to be happy. Then lovingly tell her that you do not feel like you are contributing to her feeling any better by simply "listening" - because so far, it hasn't done her any good, and that it is frustrating for you as well. Let her know that you want to be a part of the solution, and offer to be there when she is ready to make positive changes, but that right now, you just can't stand being a part of the problem by encouraging her in the status quo. And then, politely change the subject. Hopefully, she will get the message that you do love her and you are her friend, but that your own "supports" are beginning to sag under the burdens of her "always the same" problem.
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Worst piece of Software you've used
by Nosferatu inokay, share the experiences you've had with horrible computer software.
i'll start:.
at work, we are forced to use a piece of software called winbiller.
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imallgrowedup
Well, Nos, I can't say I've ever had as frustrating of an experience with software as you have! My goodness, if I did, I would be pulling my hair out! (And it just ain't right for a woman to be bald!!!) However, I will say that the absolute worst program I ever downloaded were those stupid smiley emoticons. My computer has never been the same since I allowed those "cute" faces to invade my hard drive! Even Spybot doesn't get rid of them!
Hope you get new time-tracking software at work soon!
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What Was Your Opinion Of Ronald Reagan???
by minimus indid you love him, hate him or not care one way or another because at the time you were "neutral"?
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imallgrowedup
Dan,
I guess perhaps we understood Min's question from different perspectives. I understood him to be asking simply what I thought of Ronald Reagan - right now. You are certainly correct - it is too early to make a judgment call on his impact on world history when viewed over several centuries. Honestly, it just didn't occur to me that he might want to know what I might think of the man 200 or 2000 years from now. If that is indeed what he is asking, I guess that little red dot is just going to have to wait to get my opinion post mortem. (Do ya suppose he'll still be asking questions then?!!!)
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What makes marraiges last
by desib77 inmy husband and i have been married a little over a year now and it has been the happiest year of my life.
i have finally found someone that i truly love and that truly loves me.
he's also my best friend.
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imallgrowedup
From personal experience, I can say that I believe that a marriage must first be based on respect, because I believe that love grows from respect. Without respect, one does not care if there is communication, does not care if there is intimacy, and does not care whether there is any real love. So, in my book, respect has to come first.
Example: Look at mail-order brides or people whose marriage was arranged by their parents and whose marriages are also successful. (I actually know a couple whose parents arranged their marriage). The love grew out of RESPECT for one another. So, without it, I do not think a marriage can survive.
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P.S. Are there any respectable men out there?!!! LOL!