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  Love Is... The Meaning of Life!

  by FMZ in

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  "one word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.

  " sophocles (496 bc - 406 bc).

  love is as old and timeless as life itself.

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  LT -

  My turn for esoterical thought!!!

  I think I have to disagree with this statement under certain circumstances:

  It's not that without, but how we deal with it within.
  If you can't deal with it, remove it from your life. It doesn't take hate to achieve that.

  Under "agape" love, ok - this is true. However, under romantic love, this simply can not be the case. Sometimes, the only way to get someone who has been untrue or who is "bad" for you out of your life and/or heart - but that for some stupid reason you still love anyway - you need to focus on the things that they have done that hurt you - which stirs a hatred within - in order to give up the hope of anything ever being the same again with that person. I say this because when two people break up - it is essentially like a death - it is the death of a dream, or the death of a relationship - and people must go through the grieving process in order to heal, just as if someone had died. This is where the (using your words) "how we deal with it from within" comes in. It is not only normal - it is essential - to go through the grieving process because we can not be whole until we do. And part of the grieving process is a phase of anger. How else can anger occur unless it is tied to hatred? Isn't there a fine line between love and hate? Obviously, since the grieving process is - by definition - a process, it doesn't mean that a person must always hate the other person. However, I think it is essential to hate that person "at the proper time" in order to go through the grieving process as the result of a broken relationship, and (using your words) "remove them from your life."

  Thoughts? Comments?! Inquiring Minds Want to Know!!!

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  When is it ok to have sex?

  by Obviously Secret in

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  i always get different answers when i ask this question, or i get answers that contradict with the people givin the answer.

  i ask this to various forums online and they all end up saying, when your ready and you know the conciquences.

  however, that obviously doesn't work much or isn't the truth when so many little kids are getting pregnant and aids are everywhere and everything else.. so seriously.

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  OS -

  I'm with Talesin. I have also spent a lot of time with you in chat, and I think very highly of your mature attitude. The fact that you would even think to ask this question instead of just running off to do it just 'cuz you can - AND the fact that you think it best in marriage - says a lot about a 16-year-old. Because of conversations we have had, I do not believe that YOU think you are ready for sex. And I agree with you. It is so important to be able to handle the responsibilities that go along with it, as so many in here have suggested, and it is also very important to know that you have a mutual love and respect for one another before committing this act of intimacy. Rushing it can ruin everything - trust me - I've been there.

  Another thing to add - be PROUD of your decision to wait until marriage - you will not believe the amount of respect you will gain for it.

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  Love Is... The Meaning of Life!

  by FMZ in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  "one word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.

  " sophocles (496 bc - 406 bc).

  love is as old and timeless as life itself.

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  Tal -

  You got a deal! Ditto, here, okay?!!!

  growedup
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  Love Is... The Meaning of Life!

  by FMZ in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  "one word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.

  " sophocles (496 bc - 406 bc).

  love is as old and timeless as life itself.

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  Tal,

  It's like many things, if you truly believe others are not kind and giving, the negative energy surrounding that belief system will repel the kind, giving people. IMHO (stress on the word humble!) That's how it was with me. A self-fulfilling prophecy, so to speak.

  I agree with this 110%! I see it with my father, especially, so I know that this principle applies, whether it is written down somewhere or not.

  Generally, I am a very optimistic person, and trust me when I say that I usually have to pick and choose between the good things that do come my way! I have been blessed in many ways! I guess I am just being overly "picky" about this. Thanks for helping me to see that!

  :-)

  growedup
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  Rich-o-meter ... how rich are you? (and some shocking stats)

  by Simon in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  first of all, see how rich you are here:.

  http://www.channel4.com/4money/funnymoney/richometer/index.html.

  chances are, you will be in the top 1% or 2% on the planet.. now, consider this:.

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  Do you think the same work would have paid off so well in north-west China. Are you American? I don't mean to be blunt, but you're probably "self-made" to the the detriment of displaced and murdered natives, and with the help of bunches of slain white soldiers.

  Gee, A Paduan,
  

  I really feel shitty now. I'm going to ask God tonight if I can start my life over, and starting tomorrow morning, I promise to only accept jobs which pay $2.00 per month US for the rest of my life just so I don't piss anyone off for having too much money which apparently I should feel guilty for EARNING. I mean, everyone knows that it is certainly better to live off the rich guy who has NO RIGHT to any money, especially when he EARNED it himself! That is what you are suggesting, isn't it? That I should just pack up everything I have worked for and sell it so the guy who never had any breaks in life can have another 50 cents per month to live on?

  And if that isn't good enough for ya, I'll ask for Wish No. 2 and ask him if it is okay if I just sit on my ass until the day I die and allow my government, and/or rich benefactors to support me. Yeah. That ought to fix all the world's problems right there!

  growedup

  P.S. If neither of these solutions work for you, could you kindly suggest one that would?
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  Watchtower Society's fraud....is this a hoax???

  by DevonMcBride in

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  the following was posted on the watchtower observer message board by a first time poster at

  http://www.kent.steinhaug.no/forum/showthread.php?s=865c3b7039ad37257b4aab8655764b08&threadid=3506

  it sounds far-fetched to me.

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  I don't understand how an "uneducated person" can work with cross-bred pathogens. Does not make sense to me.

  Sounds as outrageous as Alvin Hansen's story:

  www.pennibanctrust.com

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  Hello Everyone! Home With Pics!

  by Valis in

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  for those who sent me pms the day i left.

  sorry i didn't get to them and i'll do some cathing up later today in between working.

  no offense intended if i didn't respond.

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  imallgrowedup

  Welcome back, Valis!

  Looks like a good time was had by all!!!

  growedup
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  Love Is... The Meaning of Life!

  by FMZ in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  "one word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.

  " sophocles (496 bc - 406 bc).

  love is as old and timeless as life itself.

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  imallgrowedup

  if only there was a way we could put them into a savings bank of sorts....

  Or better yet - call them all in at once, if desired! I could go for that!!!

  growedup
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  Love Is... The Meaning of Life!

  by FMZ in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  "one word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: that word is love.

  " sophocles (496 bc - 406 bc).

  love is as old and timeless as life itself.

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  imallgrowedup

  Tal -

  There will be times in life when you receive amazing gifts from unexpected sources. You think to yourself "why would they be so kind to me? How did they know how much I needed that?" There is your payback. Your love has 'come back to you'. The energy you are putting out will come back to you, not from that neighbour but from someone else, perhaps when you least expect it.

  Ok, I can buy that - to a certain degree. But if this is true, then we can not say that it will come back to us "ten-fold" or "many times over" because I can say without a doubt that if I had been keeping score my whole life, I would be owed a whole lot more than I've gotten so far. And if I were to die as soon as I hit the "send" button, there is no way for me to recoup that. So, either the premise that it comes back to you "multi-fold" is wrong, or there is no equality here on earth where we will be paid back for the love we put out to others.

  Just my .02,

  growedup the party-pooper
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  Rich-o-meter ... how rich are you? (and some shocking stats)

  by Simon in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  first of all, see how rich you are here:.

  http://www.channel4.com/4money/funnymoney/richometer/index.html.

  chances are, you will be in the top 1% or 2% on the planet.. now, consider this:.

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  imallgrowedup

  Every red cent that I have is because I personally earned it, or I made the right investment. And I got the money for the investments by working my tail off and paying my own way through college! So, it is possible to have money and be self-made.

  growedup