You said it in the first sentence.... They are trained to "skirt the issue". I am having the same friendly type debate with my father on what is said on the internet, and on the facts that people present, like documentation of their financial involvement. I can hear it in his voice... he just stutters.... "wel...well... uh.. you se.... you see.... that is just questioning God's plans. You need to have faith"
If you are looking for a logical explanation... you won't find it. They are not permitted to ask these type questions, and all that do are accused of "planting doubt".