hasnt happened to me billz but my cousin got hit a bit differently but someone he thought he would spend the rest of his life with changed drasticly.
my cousin was married before to a girl he got pregnate. he was about to marry someone else and then ended up not marrying the girl he wanted to because he had a daughter with this girl.
married her and a disaster on wheels bro. that marriage couldnt end fast enough, bad divorce, she took the lions share of everything he worked for( in the relationship he paid for everything and she worked to pay for HER truck and the rest of her money was hers to do with as she liked).
so its not hard to imagine that he wasnt in a hurry to remarry.......... in fact he said for ages that he wouldnt ever get married again......... might let a girl live with him but he wasnt gonna marry her.
got a family friends daughter to go out with him........ she moved into his house and lived there for over 2 or 3 years then all of a sudden she kept hitting him up for money. he had the same relationship with her he had with his ex wife........ her money paid for her bills and some groceries and his money paid for HIS house and the bills. her car was about to get reposessed...... so he bailed her out.... twice. then he thought it was ridulose that she had no bills to speak of and she apparently couldnt pay for her car so he told her he wouldnt bail her out again............. so next time they repoed her car........ dumb way to prove a point but he went and bought her a fixer upper and fixed it up. gave it to her............. then he started noticeing things missing......... especially his stashes of money.
next thing you know she has a gambleing problem and is spending all her time away with friends............... then he finds out she is cheating on him.
he refuses to pay her debts and tells her that she has a choice to make......... she decides to leave and he helps her move out.
so she sleeps around with this guy and rumor mill says a couple more.............. then finds out she is Pregnate and claims its his............. he still loves her but he went through hell trying to work it out with her when the problems first started and dosent belive the child is his due to the fact and fiction that she slept with a minimum of one guy while they were together. she left him for this other guy so he dosent feel he can trust her ever again............. dna proves the kid is his unfortunately.
my cousin isnt perfect by any means......... but he didnt see this comming at all. he even was considering marrying her before this hit the fan......... now hes just screwed.
his response......... he wants nothing to do with mommy so he dosent have any contact with her or the child
all i can say is no way will i be kept apart from a child of mine but thats his decision.