I am a born in and have been out more if my adult life then I have been in. Emotionally however as long as I have brothers and sisters and parents in, my behavior is modified at least around them, even though they all know where I stand. As far as the elders, I could give a rats behind what they say or think about me. I will never agree to any meeting with them and it has been made abundantly clear that they are not welcome at my home.
Brainfloss