i often see comments by ex-jws that would suggest some men still view themselves as "head of the house".
sometimes comments from women appear to support the idea as well.. how many still see things this way or have you completely got over it?.
My dad's second wife was a shy pioneer sister that was single at age 34 when they got married.
What a domineering head strong basket case she was! she ran the household from day one, use to hit the youngest of us with a wooden spoon
and had the elders on speed dial if my dad ever tried to step up to the plate and be a man.
something about men losing their testosterone as they get older and women gaining it.......
generally i found most people were pretty apathetic and often surprisingly tolerant , but we've all had some bad ones.
looking back , here were my worst couple of experiences - there probably were others but i've probably long forgotten them or blanked them off.. i was a kid of maybe 13 & it was bitterly cold & pouring with rain.
i was working alone in a middle class street near my school where i knew a lot of my school teachers lived & was scared stiff at every door half the time pretending to press bells , doing the fake knock etc.
Well ofcourse my worst experience was running into a girl from my school at a door in service, and her looking at me like i was crazy as i told her, "how bad this world we are living in is, and would she like to see her dead loved ones again?"
My favorite experience was when i was 17 going out in service with a 24 year old full time pioneer sister on return visits. when the sisters in the back seat left the car to go on their call, she made a move on me. she reached down on the passenger side floor to grab her RV note pad and she ended up massaging my ankle above the sock line while she was talking to me. which doesnt sound like much but got me all excited,(remember i was a sheltered JW).
So as the summer went on i would work with her in the afternoons all the time to get my auxiliary hours in. She had blonde hair, great body and in my young mind she was a mature woman, But being a JW her whole life she may have been as innocent as me.
Well she would wear congregation appropriate length dresses but they would usually have a slit in the side, so i would always rub her upper thigh under the dress when we would be alone in the car. And ofcourse it progressed to alot more and we would smile at each other accross the hall on the sly.
We would get up during meeting and go to the bathroom at the same time just to say hi in the back, ofcourse leaving a few minutes apart!
great summer and we never had to go to the back room over it, so its not a bad memory luckily. I also had an elders wife proposition me as well when bookstudy was held at her house. But nothing ever came of it, i must have had the look that was just worldly enough that they thought i wouldnt run to the elders over guilt.
my husband insists all the men chosen to be prophets were inperfect men.
i agreed.
i do not agree that what they prophacied about; said was from the word of god; could ever be wrong.
The first thing you need to do is get out of that old twisted mindset. What is happening is your falling into their way of thinking.
"you see there have been other true prophets in the bible that have been wrong with their prophecies"
you are not suppose to use examples in the bible of what not to do, as proof that your the gods modern day people.
with that logic you could point out any wrongdoing in the bible and say "see gods chosen people back then made mistakes too", that would prove any religion safe as gods chosen religion, because it would even show its ok to go to war, like gods "chosen race" did back then.
