I think that my current belief system doesn't necessarily make me nicer, but abandoning the JW beliefs definitely made me less "fake-nice." Now if you get "nice" from me, it's the real deal. :)
Posts by Odrade
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24Does your belief system make you nicer
by Satanus inor, does your nature help determine the belief system that you choose?
if you lose your belief system, do you become worse, better, stay the same, happier, sadder?
is it better to have a system imposed on you in order to control you, or is it better to be yourself?
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I am having a bad day
by Vivamus init is wearing me down.. my constant companion in life, my skull-breaking- mind-blowing- daily migraines finally got the better off me six months ago.
i broke down, i cried and cried and cried.
not only cuz of the pain, but more for the fact that painkillers were not helping me anymore.
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Odrade
Sorry Sparky, I should not have made such a dogmatic statement about migraines and emotion. I was speaking out of my own experience, which is that I had a physiological problem that was causing constant pain, but could not be read on a test. Several healthcare providers told me to see a psychologist, not to help me deal, but because they were saying that my headaches were because I was mentally ill or unstable.
I am aware that PTSD, emotional trauma, constant stress can be the cause of migraine, but I think that some medical providers may be too quick to latch onto that "cause" just because they can't find a "reason" that shows up on a lab test.
I apologize for suggesting that emotional stress is bullshit, or not a real reason for migraine. I truly hope that things ease for you and anyone who suffers this. Regardless of the reason for the migraines, nobody should have to deal with that much pain.
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I am having a bad day
by Vivamus init is wearing me down.. my constant companion in life, my skull-breaking- mind-blowing- daily migraines finally got the better off me six months ago.
i broke down, i cried and cried and cried.
not only cuz of the pain, but more for the fact that painkillers were not helping me anymore.
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Odrade
Sorry Viv. I've been there. Lucky for me, it only lasted for 8 months, and I had days when the migraines were easier. There have been a few times that meant a trip to the emergency room because I knew that if I didn't go there I'd take every pill in the house just to make the pain stop.
Blaming constant migraine on repressed emotion is BULLSHIT! It's just another way to blame the victim when they run out of medical things to try. About 10 years ago I had an MRI because of the constant, unrelenting nature of the pain, and of course it came back: "We can't find anything wrong. Do you want to try these drugs that might kill you? You could drop dead, bleed out, or just kill your liver, but well give you the pills anyways..." Yeah, give me the pills.
I manage now with regular acupuncture and chiropractic, but still occasionally get a blinder (about 1-4 times a month,) and have to take the "drop dead" pills. Still, it's so much better than what you're experiencing, and I'm so grateful that something worked. Before my current combo (which I hope will work forever,) I tried everything except botox. Herbs, food combos, (I have no known food triggers,) other acupuncture, vitamin therapy, some dubious crackpot health products, massage, exercise, more herbs, other drugs (when it's bad, even morphine won't touch it.) The combo they give me when I go to ER is Toradol, Atavan, and Compazine. Of course I can't self-administer such a drug combo. Pot works for the nausea, which sometimes disrupts the headache, but I rarely have nausea with migraine, just pain, and I rarely have pot around anyways.
I hope you find something soon. Don't let them tell you you're mentally ill as a reason. That's a doctor cop-out. Hang in there.
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Odrade
good review. Thanks.
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Why the "painting" argument of Intelligent Design doesn't prove anything
by B_Deserter ini was thinking about one of the favorite examples intelligent design proponents like to use: the painting.
often, the person will hold up a painting of a mona lisa, or point to some words written in the sand on a beach, or a 747 and point out that none of these things exist by chance.
the painting has a painter, someone wrote the words in the sand, and a whole crew of people engineered and built the 747.. .
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Odrade
Yeah, it was a good one. I had 8 tabs open and was trying to listen to music. I had a hell of a time finding that damn voice so I could pause it.
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Why the "painting" argument of Intelligent Design doesn't prove anything
by B_Deserter ini was thinking about one of the favorite examples intelligent design proponents like to use: the painting.
often, the person will hold up a painting of a mona lisa, or point to some words written in the sand on a beach, or a 747 and point out that none of these things exist by chance.
the painting has a painter, someone wrote the words in the sand, and a whole crew of people engineered and built the 747.. .
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Odrade
god I hate it when people embed things that auto-play.
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The death of Dennis Lindberg...help if you can!
by Magician03 ini haven't been on this forum for several years, nothing personal.
the reason i am here is that i have been told that this forum is very active, and that is what i am looking for.. there was a case in the news here in washington state about a 14 year old boy that died due to his decision to refuse a blood transfusion.
this of course was the wishes of his aunt that gained guardianship over him due to his parents drug problems four years earlier.
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Odrade
I've been following the King5 blog, posted too about thinking I faced the blood issue during emergency surgery when I was 15. (Fortunately my surgery is not one of the high blood-loss types. Very interested to hear how all of your efforts turn out.
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Watchtower says JW's can reach different conclusions & it's fine!!!
by Must obey! inwatchtower study article "responding to your conscience" (october 15, 2007, pages 25-29, studied december 3-9, 2007) .
dealing with, inter alia, oral sex, contained what i thought was an interesting new way of describing how jw's can form their own personal, and different, conclusions and that no one needs to be 'disturbed' by this.
i have never seen the watchtower describe it quite this way, even in relation to conscience matters like whether to attend a church wedding.
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Odrade
Two + two = five.
Excellent post.
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Mouthy/Lady Lee/ex-jw video comments disabled
by Tatiana inhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rk6slnm0mtq.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9zs86dfzbg8.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cppijrqhsmu.
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Odrade
Usually the person who posts the videos is the one who disables the comments. It could be youtube admin, but I'd be surprised.
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Sorry?
by RichieRich inover the past few days... someone who i'm no longer associated with has been out on vendetta to discredit me.
it started with a mass mail to my myspace friends, which caused nothing more than a few eyebrows to be raised.
that was the reaction of people who know me in real life.
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Odrade
Restrangled's hubby defends her by saying that in real life, he calls out his friends if he thinks he has a reason. I would like to know if it is his habit to do so at a large party in front of 100 of his friends, or if he prefers to handle such matters privately?
So here we have unsubstantiated accusations (because one can claim anything, then post a phone number where they can be reached to "verify" the claims. Just because you reach them, and they repeat the accusations doesn't mean it is verified,) made by someone nobody knows, that all of a sudden have been not only plastered all over a board, still UNVERIFIED, but then jumped on for 100s of posts ASSuming that the accusations are true and demanding an answer.
Disgusting.
Richie, nice "apology." IMO, I have yet to see anything verifiable that you needed to apologize for, and if these are the kinds of friends you get around here, I hope you have contact information for those who aren't backstabbers. I can't see a reason why you'd ever come back here. Normal people wouldn't, after such treatment. Good for you for coming around and making a public statement though. Have a good Christmas, maybe I'll see you around (some other) board sometime.