OEJ: Please seek counseling..now and as it seems you can converse with your wife include her from day one.
Bring any non jw friends into your life more. BBQ's, share going to movies then go for coffees etc.
The need so many women have for the company of other women (read 'approved' ones) is a big thing indeed and many women in TT live in real fear of what others think about them to the extent that this is a binding force on their lives.
You are a thinker ask people around who are likewise intelligent and funny,so your conversation can be intelligent up lifting witty enjoyable. Conversely get a group of jw together and the convo is so guarded and benign you can spend an evening and come away having not talked about anything. I always found it sad that to mention the politics of the day or some major happening was to invite a torrent of jehovah speak where everyone would square off like boxers and come out with a whole lot of jw speak. Frightened to have an opinion.
In fact the JW church is the 'Seinfelt' of religions.
The wt teaching that people only go for education to satisfy ego is deplorable. This is ignorance and the cultish fear that some will come out knowing more than they do it is power seeking.
May the power of love be strong in your life.