Feeling sooo isolated..... (page 4)

Dansk

WELCOME, MICHELLE!!

This is the place to relieve yourself of loneliness - and we all know what you're going through!

Ian

Soledad

Congratulations!

Best Wishes!

Bring in a happy healthy little one free from the cult known as Jehovah's Witnesses!

jgnat

Good job Michelle!

Im so used to ignoring people for fear that they might actually want to be my friend and then having to tell them Im a JW and cant associate with them. Now I strike up conversations with everyone. I work in a hospital in Chicago so I have ample opportunity to be friendly and have good conversations. Im pregnant right now so when Im off of work duty I plan to go join prenatal yoga classes and aqua classes and just trying to find ways to find new friends.

It sounds like you have an excellent plan. Funny, just lately I speculated out loud with my hubby that if i had been a "Good JW" I would not have been at my daughter's side through her pregnancy (out of wedlock). My granddaughter is the light of my eye. Can you imagine how compromised my life would have been if I had lost out in the love and devotion of my beautiful daughter and grandchild?

AlmostAtheist

Bring in a happy healthy little one free from the cult known as Jehovah's Witnesses!

This was a great joy for Gina and I about our youngest, Sierra. She's 13 months old, and never been to a Kingdom Hall. She'll grow up NORMAL! (Well, she'll still be with *us*, but she'll have a chance at least!)

Dave

Tez

Well you needn't feel so isolated now Michelle. Welcome to this board! I think I understand how you feel because even if you do make friends now that you are out in the world you probably feel the need for friends who understand where you come from, which is where this board comes in!!!! Like you my partner doesn't understand what it is like to have been a JW, so he ranges from being very protective and gets angry when he knows how I have been brainwashed, or he doesn't want to get involved in a conversation about something he doesn't know a lot about. Its not that he doesn't care, just hasn't had the same experience! The folk you will find on this board understand totally!!! and they are very supportive!!! Hopefully too, you may get to meet someone from your area! Keep in touch with us now you are here, we will look forward to hearing from you.

Take care

love

Tez

Crumpet

Hi Michelle

I really feel for you but I can relate to most of your experiences mentioned here especially of isolation. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders though especially as you mention striking up conversations with everyone you meet. Thats a great way to make new friends. I read your profile and was so sorry to see you had lost your children. Can you tell us some more about why you have had to relinquish them?

crumpet x

Michelle5480

Sad to say I was so confused when everything was going on, I wanted so much for the whole thing to go as smoothly as possible. I was married for 8 yrs and my sons were raised in the JW's so I figured it would be best to let them continue to go for the meanwhile so that everything didnt change for them at once. So my ex said he would pick them up from my house to take them to the meetings on Tuesday's, Thursdays and Sunday. So then he started saying how he was lonely since I had left and wanted the kids to sleep over his house more often so I agreed again trying to keep things as peacful as possible. While all this is going on he is telling the children the Im a Satan worshipper and that I am going to be destroyed so the boys were scared and started to ask to stay with him more because of that but they wouldnt tell me. So when I started dating other people it got ugly and the kids didnt want to be with me at all because he filled their head with so many ideas. I started working secularly a few months before we separated so that he could stay home and build his business. So now he has more time to be with them and Im stuck working to try to survive. So I had to move in with my boyfriend and after that my ex didnt want the kids at my house at all. Now they come over every Monday and every other weekend but they're anxious to go back to they're dad's house because they're afraid. So it pretty much feels like I lost them completely. Theyre with me physically but they're hearts and minds are completely gone.

daystar

OMG Michelle. What viscious things your ex has been filling your kids minds with... I'm quite angry at the moment.

I couldn't imagine vilifying my ex-wife to my son, as many horrible things as she has done.

TheListener

Michelle welcome to the board. It takes courage to strike out on your own, different from what you've known.

I congratulate you.

I'm so sorry about what you ex is doing to your children. Is there any way you can show them extra attention and love by spending quality time with them when you do have them? Not just chuck e. cheeses but maybe reading fun stories or taking walks.

I work very hard with my children to let them know that I love them very much. I also point out other churches and mention "oh look they're going to their meeting now; they love God very much." I try to point out that not everyone who loves God calls him Jehovah.

I hope things improve for you.

Good luck.

Es

welcome to the board michelle, you will make some great friends here.

Hope we can help

es

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