by Cordelia 63 Replies latest jw friends
that old man boy and donkey was brilliant, i saved it on my favourites
i know i dont know why im like this but my dad is the same thats what so hard i know hed do anything for me and i will hurt him so bad!#
but i think i must stand by what i think (prob is i keep changing my mind!)
Leave your poor ex-b/f out of this.
If you're going, go. If your family shuns you, they shun you. If you can get your shyte together enough to be a whole person then (maybe), and only then, think about dragging the poor guy back into your life.
Stop making him your excuse. You either want the religion or you don't - your stand - your life - your decision.
Adult decisions suck, huh? (((hugs)))
He'll do anything for you, huh? Will he put aside the shunning policy and love his daughter anyways? Will he stand up to his elder buddies at the hall and declare his undying love for you?
Again, you are focussing too much on other people. You can't be responsible for everyone's happiness. Be at least responsible for yours.
Another thought. Write down your decision on a little bit of paper. Keep it with you always. Read it when you brush your teeth. Put it in your wallet. Read it when you go to bed and tuck it under your pillow. Stick it in your bra when you visit your parents.
I see so much of myself in you. I'm a ppl pleaser too. I want everyone to be happy and be happy with me. It's just not possible.
I stayed in too long just because I thought my mother would have a nervous breakdown if I left. I finally had to leave because I would have a nervous breakdown. Yes, she took it hard, but I had to do it for ME. I was 22. You are 30. You have a daughter. Do you REALLY want your daughter subjected to all this craziness? Are you ready to shun her when she faces a similar situation?
It's really sad what this cult does to ppl and how some of us don't ever seem to grow up. I'm now 38, and I still don't feel grown up. My counsler told me I have the life skills of a 28 year old. When I was 28, I had the skills of a 18 year old. Women your age should be able to live their life the way they see fit, and their parents should have let go a LONG time ago. Man, are JWs ever screwed up in the head!
I feel for you, I really do, but it's time to grow up.
Diana... of the "needs to follow her own advice" class
Codelia - you know we love ya'. But I just gotta say it......
"Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to decieve" Hamlet I think.
Jeff
u guys are great
Ross i know u know me and i know u are so right!
jgnat how are u so full of such brilliant ideas all the time, i will do that.
diana, im like u i could prob tell u what to do just cant seem to tell myself!
jeff thanks too, i do know what i need to do and this time i must do it, or im sure ill drive u all completely mad! not to mention the poor bf!!
hey girly...did u get my last email
Hello sunshine! I was thinking about you yesterday and wondering where you're at, you'd have been a mess after the breakup. I'm still concerned about how your choices affect the chances of you retaining custody of your daughter. I think that focussing on that should be your main priority. Fight for her first.
This sounds like one for Dr. Phil
