My 14-year-old has a same sex attraction..... (page 2)

BlessedStar

I'm sorry I was only explaining homosexuality and then gave one solution to this behaviour.

Blessedstar

Krystal

Homosexuality is among the list of deviate or abnormal sexual practices.

What list? Who's list? Abnormal doesn't mean wrong/evil! Do we call people with abnormalities evil? All those people out there who'd second toe is longer than your first, I am sorry but you are abnormal therefore you are evil.

Being homosexual or bi-sexual is just another little difference that makes the world a beautiful place. It is the ignorant, intolerant and uninformed comments of people like blessed star that makes this world an ugly, unwelcoming and HARSH place to raise children.

That being said, I would worry less about WHO you daughter is attracted to and more about talking to her about her age and responsiblity and consequences of having a sexual relationship with anyone! Good Luck.

slugga

I'm sorry I was only explaining homosexuality and then gave one solution to this behaviour

And what credentials do you have to back up your claim to be such an expert on the subject?

Gretchen956

I'm going to weigh in as a lesbian even though I didn't come out as a 14 year old. I wish my parents could have been more open and understanding of the issues, my brother came out to them just before his 18th birthday, he had known for YEARS that he was gay, and finally couldn't pretend anymore. That was many many years ago in a tiny town in the Montana mountains, and NO one was coming out yet (for good reason). My parents immediately moved him to a city 150 miles away, where he lived without any further contact from us. He was only spoken about in whispers after that within the family. A big impression on me, as I was then 11.

So I shut that part out, totally. And even though my attraction was to girls (fantasized when I wasn't overcome by guilt and shame), when I got sexually active it was with the guys. After my first experience, my reaction was, "thats is? thats what all the hoopla is about?" So I thought perhaps it was just me, and I slept with a few more and then a lot more. How should I say this, I always thought men's bodies were ugly, and I was never once sexually fulfilled. Still I met and married. After all, I was raised to be a housewife and learned no other skills, and being a housewife was what the bible said I was supposed to be. Right? So I was one for 15 years. In all that time I always felt like I was in a role in a play or a movie, or a kid playing house. The whole thing was surreal, like I didn't belong there. And, still no sexual fulfillment, but blessed by one son. I will add that it was an abusive marriage, so when I ended it despite the elders and my family's advice and threats, I also left the religion of my youth (3rd generation witness). Also, in all that time, there were always the fantasies of women.

This is getting long, suffice it to say in a period of introspection several years later, I wondered to myself. My parents and the elders had always told me that if you have a weakness, Satan would exploit it. Why, in all that time, had I not met someone in person that I was attracted to? If he existed, and if the bible was right, I should have been tempted many many times. I was not. In retrospection I have to say that I was not in a place once during all that time where you could be openly gay and not ridiculed, etc., so many were/are in the closet still.

Still, I finally did meet a woman I was attracted to. And I certainly did find sexual fulfillment. I came out and had my first O at age 42. And when all of you sit around and think about the wasted years inside the WTS, I have that double. I have a partner now who I love very much, we have been together going on five years now. We have a great family, we are happy. Life is very good. Yet still I regret I could not have been true to myself as a young lady.

Whats the point? Let your daughter figure this out. It could be a phase, or it could be that she really is a lesbian. When I was first figuring this out I thought because I had been with men that automatically made me bisexual. But I soon put that to rest. I am a lesbian.

The best advice is, talk to her as a parent about risky sexual behavior. Find and contact your local chapter of PFLAG (parents and family of lesbian and gays), who can support you through this process and tell you where to go for information regarding what types of risks are there for lesbian sex. Your daughter is too young as you have pointed out. But you will go much further if you take the kind of interest I have described, contacting PFLAG will not solidify her being a lesbian, but you will gain much knowledge and support from other parents who have gone through what you are experiencing now.

Sorry this is so long, I hope I didn't bore you with my story.

Blessings,

Sherry

Gretchen956

Blessed star, I was not exposed to any pornography, my brother never once let on to me that he was gay while living at home, until the night he was packed up and moved out because he told my parents. My only exposure to it was this shame and hiding of him later. I did know that he was beaten up severely at one point earlier, (remember that was in the early 60s), but I didn't know why.

In fact none of the things you listed have I experienced.

Also, the American Psychiatric Association does not list homosexuality as an abherrant behavior, nor does the AMA or any other respected medical source. Your statistics are bogus.

My life is normal in every respect except for who I sleep with.

You are out of line.

Sherry

Saoirse

Homosexuality is among the list of deviate or abnormal sexual practices. God did not create any human being as a homosexual. They are not born that way, just as murderers are not born that way. However, these spirits can be transmitted to children, especially if someone who had this demonic spirit seduced or raped a child--or even if they were close to gay people.
People become homosexuals because they yield to abnormal acts or lust. It is through some source that they have received a demonic spirit that drives them to their lust. Viewing evil videos or pornographic books is a way of opening the door for Satan to give one an evil, perverse spirit.

You mean homosexuality is contagious!?!?! I can catch gay?!?!?!?! Oh my God!!!!!! (runs away screaming)

I seriously hope that you are just mentally disturbed and just forgot to take your lithium, Prozac, or whatever. Or maybe you are a troll. If you're not then I don't know what to say, I'm at a loss for words.

AlmostAtheist

Hee, hee! Welcome to the forum, BStar! Here's where we separates the mens from the boys's.

God did not create any human being as a homosexual. They are not born that way, just as murderers are not born that way.

Actually, research suggests that BOTH such behaviors may well be rooted in genetics.

You must understand that sexuality IS genetic. I'm a man, and I'm sexually attracted to women. That is because there are triggers built into me that cause me to become aroused in the presence of women. If that trigger was changed to make me aroused by men, I would be. It's that simple. It isn't a choice, it's just what happens.

To view sexuality and behavior through the biblical lens of sin is surely going to distort the reality of it.

Moreover, the original poster -- by her own admission -- is really dealing with a my-child-is-too-young-for-sex issue, not a my-child-is-gay issue. The homo/bi- angle is secondary to the primary one.

Dave

kittyeatzjdubs

However, these spirits can be transmitted to children, especially if someone who had this demonic spirit seduced or raped a child--or even if they were close to gay people.

wow....i must be really gay then....

luv, jojo

LittleToe

Try not to overthink it. This is a normal part of growing up, with the advantage that she's unlikely to fall pregnant

Sherry:

My life is normal in every respect except for who I sleep with.

One day, maybe even this statement will be redundant.

Dave:Even if it's found not to be genetic, it's certainly affected by the presence of certain hormones during gestation. There are physical reasons for it, not spiritual ones.

Confession

God did not create any human being as a homosexual. They are not born that way, just as murderers are not born that way.

Well how about people born with no fingers or with other body parts that don't work as most others' do? People born retarded?

Please don't misunderstand. I'm not saying that homosexuals should be compared to retarded persons. I'm only reasoning on the above statement that "God did not create any human being as a homosexual." If we accept that, when we were born, God "created" us in that way, then what do you say about those born with obvious physical differences from most? Will you say that it was due to a "spirit?" Or will you suggest that it must have been due to some problem, which could have been avoided, caused by a parent?

I think it's ridiculous when anyone speaks as if they know for certain why a person is a homosexual. Is it possible that some are influenced in that direction when young? Sure, possibly... But there is no question that many, many people have the natural inclination toward same sex relationships. To suggest otherwise with such a confident tone of authority is to place yourselves in the position of the oh-so-omniscient Watchtower Society.

My 14-year-old has a same sex attraction.....

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