my letter to my dad. what do you think? (page 4)

avishai

Maybe enclose this post, or your version of it in the letter?

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/10/55372/1.ashx

damselfly

I thought it was one of the better worded letters I've read on here.

Best of luck with it.

Dams

He has agreed with us completely on every subject we have discussed. He and my stepmom have been having SERIOUS doubts lately. They are both physically and emotionally sick because of the stress of this org.

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then you will do well, you have something to work with, i think your letter being sent to him under the circumstances and the previous conversations you all have had, the ground work as been laid months back by you- excellent work my man- your approach is the way we have to do it, slow and consistently- throttle back when need to and keep moving forward

let me tell you something man, you will exp an emotional freedom and closeness to your folks that you never had in your life as a jw

for finally once in your life if you are able to get them out and i hope you are, you all will nolonger have to judge them or be judged based on some bogus standards set by the wt

"are you up to date on your mag reading" "how many hours you got this month" "couldn't you have gone to the hall tonight, i see you felt good enough to go to work"

no more will you have to be judged or judged based on bogus standards of god

i truly wish you the very best, i tell folks all the time, the Net "THANG" is the place where one can come and see how others have handled many times the exact situation and learn from their successes and errors, in handling family who are jw

personally i get disappointed in many former jw and the advice they give or the actions they stand by and watch others take, that often times end up creating worst relationships with their family than not

each person needs to understand there is not ONe size fits all- but there are some common thiings we all need to do

i see former jw shout and yell - jw are a cult, jw are brainwashed,etc- yet their advice on how to deal with such family members literally reflect no awarness of how a person in a high control group/cult/brainwash behaves-

yet we all KNOW the standard routine, of the jw first liine of defense- we have forgotten what we all learned in wt, in wt were fully prepared for every possilbe issue that a householder could bring up, cause we studied thier BElief system, we all knew as JW that the avg householder couldnt find Gen from REv and so it worked to our advantage

well folks it is the same here, we all know that the avg jw has absolutely no idea of what the wt has done behind the "Curtain"

so we need to use that to our advantage, we all know that jw don't stand a snowball chance in HE!! against the documentation, proof, eveidence that we can march out with the click of a mouse,

but how many former jw have actually thought, why doesnt it work like magic, after i show them this stuff- and therein lies the problem- our approach too many times triggers off the years of wt indoctrination, it is like a computer file is launched to cause all Systems to Shut down

and WE ALL KNOW THAT SO why do we keep shutting down the systems i ask-

AS WE MOVE into over 10-15yrs of internet access of wt info- we now have too much info at our finger tips to be shutting folks minds down due too many times to our approach-

even the jw poster here, ON:LINE they are attacked the minute they defend the Org, -Damn what do we actually expect them to do- the poor guy fully believes the Boys in Writing get messages from God - so why even act shocked when they go off-

anyone who has worked in a mental institute will tell you, seeing folks go off is standard stuff- no big deal-

same on the net seeing a jw defend the org while looking at 130yrs of documentation is actually in my exp Standard Operation Procedure on the part of the jw- smile

but there are many who provide some of the best advice you can get when it comes to dealign with a jw

i think we just need to take the opportunity to grow as nonjw in our approach to jw - ,most of us have-- Been There Done That and bought the TEE Shirt- smile

just my 2

freedomlover

thanks JT -

I agree. the approach has to be done tenderly and carefully. we are smarter than the WTS. I think we just need to learn to approach JW's still in with an unemotional approach which is almost impossible with family members whom we love so dearly.

we apostates are growing and getting stronger because we are learning from each other. that is not good for the WTS. he he he.

wanderlustguy

I like the letter. You know your dad better than anyone else could, so I'm sure you played to the sensibilities that you know work.

Good luck!

AK - Jeff

My last thought is this. If this is “The Truth” it should stand up to criticism and testing. In my opinion, it hasn’t, in areas I feel it should.

Freedomlover - This 'breaking away' business is never simple, is it? I know you hoped that your move to NC would allow a 'soft fade'. Now it seems that is not the likely outcome. Sorry.

Most of us have had roadblocks to our escape pop up.

Everyone must handle these things in the way that best fits his/her situation. I think you have written a commendable letter. It is respectful, kind, not accusatory. Of course, it may not be interpreted as you hope. Most of my similar attempts to do as you have done have been unsuccessful, if success is defined by prevention of the ultimate punishment of shunning.

Your letter is well written. Perhaps it is better to let 'the cards fall where they might', and at your choosing, rather than a later date when more damage might be done by others' interpretations of your actions and thinking.

Good luck to you -

You have your kids, and your husband, and you are fairly youthful I suspect. May God bless you. Or if you do not wish to acknowledge God, may life be good. Freedom is worth leaving lies behind. The cost is usually high, and that is unfortunate.

Jeff

jgnat

I like the letter because it is from the heart, addresses the key issue (final straw) that pushed freedomlover out of the WTBTS, and she can speak to her findings clearly and intelligently. Plus, a bonus to get it to her dad before the ravening dogs come out of the forest to devour her family.

Though it is longer than I recommend, it sticks to point very well.

Good job.

greendawn

It's a great letter very reasonable but unfortunately the JWs do not answer such letters they just go on with ad hominem attacks accusing those that wrote them instead of addressing the issues raised.

my letter to my dad. what do you think?

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