Hey all got a text this morning that they had sent me an email opened it straight away, here is there email and my reply.
Esther,
We hope this message clarifies some misconceptions you may have. We would like you to recall the last message we received from you just prior to your wedding, in that message you requested that things should be left for a while. As this was your request we have only abided to it. We were waiting to see what was going to develop from then on.
Please do not conclude that our distance is a result purely because you have married Michael. Judging by the feedback we have received it is evident that you have chosen a pathway for your life that clearly cannot include us. This is of course a decision you must make for yourself. We had made a similar decision before you were born to leave such a course and to serve Jehovah.
However there are some things that will not change, you are still our daughter and our feelings for you as a person will remain as always, although not always clearly expressed. Additionally, please do not doubt the depth of our feelings for Blake there is not a day that passes that we don’t think of him , and we're sad to know this situation has upset Blake. We would dearly love to see him with your permission.
The decisions that have been made in this situation have been burdensome for us as well, but we all have a God given right to choose whatever pathway we will lead our life. Our concern for your welfare will not change and we will continue to desire to see you and your family in the New System.
Sincerely yours Mum + Dad.
MY REPLY
Mum and Dad,
I have no misconceptions as to why you dont have any contact with me, im not stupid, like I said in my recent text msg "I dont care if you dont want anything to do with me" If thats the price i have to pay for free will then so be it.
And yes i did say that in the msg before the wedding, you cant keep doing this to us, talk to us when you feel like it and then put boundaries on the relationship other times, you either accept Blake and I or you dont, its that plain and simple
As for the path that i have chosen for my life, for Blake and my life, you are absolutely right its MY choice i will quote what you said " We had made a similar decision before you were born to leave such a course and to serve Jehovah."You and Dad made that choice, your lucky your parents didnt disown you, i know for a fact none of them were happy bout your decision to become JW's, and I know in later years Dads dad did not like all of the person you had become. But the point im trying to make here is that it was YOUR choice.
What "God given" right did you give Timothy and I, we did not ever get a choice, we were expected to become JW whether we wanted to or not.
Blake is not upset bout this situation, I am merely protecting him from this happening all over again. Blake is my son, how can you have something to do with him, if he is living the same life as I am. And in order to see him dont you have to assocoiate with me?????? And quite frankly I dont trust you not to indoctrine him with your beliefs which is something I do not want.
Yes you are still my parents and I feel so sorry for you both, so sorry that you cant see that JW is not all its cracked up to be, I have been doing alot of research something i should have done before I was baptised, did you know that they were a part of the UN????? They say they had to join purely to use there library, but with more research it was proven this never had to be done, they never had to join. Also may pay you to do some research on 607 bc.
But again the difference between you and me is that this is your choice and if thats what makes you happy so be it, I would never stop talking to you even tho i dont agree with your lifestyle.
I just read your letter again and you cant even say Love mum and dad at the end how pathetic........
Anyway im sure you already know but you will be grandparents again in Nov.
TRULY YOURS
Esther