Just recieved this email off my mum

by Es 50 Replies latest jw friends

  • free2beme
    free2beme


    You give birth to a child, you raise that child and spend countless hours of love, concern and planning to make their world a good one. You worry about them every day and have the oddest of concerns at times of what could happen to them, knowing how much it would break your heart to lose them. Then one day they leave the cult your in, and you kick them to the curb and wish them nothing but the worst. Make sense? If it does, then your still a Witness.

    Parents loss children in death, hourly and daily in this world. They wish they could have one more minute of time with them, even another second to cherish the time and not loss them. They love their children and when their heart is mature they know that despite whatever decision their child makes, they ultimate love them and want them to be in their life in some way or another. Do you think these parents, the ones who have lost their children in "real" death and not the "fake" death game the Witnesses play, would remotely rejoice or play the games a Witness does? No, for unlike the Witnesses, they are sane and if they did anything remotely like this, someone would lock them up and at least treat them for serious depression and delusional behavior.

    Oh, how wonderful the Witness parent love is, and how extremely sickening and limited it really is.

  • Es
    Es

    So so true

    es

  • Panda
    Panda

    ES your parents really crossed the line of acceptable behavior when they attempted to influence your son with negative statements about you. How ffff---ing sick! Your answer to their obviously self righteous mail was perfect. They will continue to try to influence your children with negative ideas about you. Personaly, I believe you will be better off to treat them with tough love. That means you allow them the misery they claim. Let them enjoy their martyrdom and get loving and empathetic hugs at the KH; meanwhile you will be enjoying a productively loving life with hubby and kids. You are doing better and better than merely fine... they'll never have that, never.

  • Es
    Es

    Thanks so much Panda, they were great words of encourgement

    really appreciate it

    es

  • mrsjones5
    mrsjones5

    You're a good mom Es.

    Josie

  • Dismembered
    Dismembered

    Greetings Es

    Your Mum and Dad need to be taken behind the outhouse, and have their pants pulled down and both thier asses slapped with a hickory switch. How infantile. They've got the typical (mind-numb) dub reasoning. Shame on them! Remember thier day will come when they need you. Just mark those words.

    Dismembered

  • jgnat
    jgnat

    I notice that your language in your letter is clear and strong, es. I think this is an indication of a stronger mind and a clearer sense of purpose. It is a good letter.

    Your parent's letter, however, reads like a futile attempt at damage control. It reads like "Our shunning is not as cruel as it seems." Underlaying that, is a painful yearning. They are hurting and lost, but cannot admit their fault. Check out their use of language:

    ....clarifies....misconceptions......abided........evident........pathway........expressed........burdensome

    This is "WT speak", never use a simple word when a fancy one will do. Using language like this couches the message. They don't want to sound so bad. They have behaved badly and they are in the wrong. They are just now waking up to the consequence of their behavior; loss of relationship with their daughter AND all their grandchildren.

  • Crumpet
    Crumpet

    Hugs Es! I wish I was as strong as you. This whole thread is totally choking me up - especially your reply to them and free2beme's sharp short description of raising and loving a child and how normal parents who lose their kids would give anything for a minute longer with them- sorry thats making me way too emotional and I can;t cry I'm at work!

    xx

  • Es
    Es

    Mrsjones- thanks i try!!!

    disembered- so true, I just hope when that day comes they feel utter shame

    Jgnat- thanks so much, I had never looked at that letter in that way...you are soooo right

    crumpet- big hugs to you too. I think im only strong coz i have had this many years. Even when in the borg they didnt talk to me for a year as they didnt like my JW hubby, im used to it now and can quite happily live without them

    es

  • Balsam
    Balsam

    ES, I think your reply back to them was perfect. If they can't be civil to you why should you allow them any contact with your children. They would only teach your son Blake along with the new baby that you are wicked and will be destroyed. Frankly your kids are better off not ever knowing that crazy religion. I think if I were you I would be tempted to not even let them know about the birth of your little one. If they really loved you they would not be acting this way. But of course you must do what ever is right for you. I have an easy time cutting the JW scummy dross from my life

    Balsam

    Scummy Dross means: worthless material that should be removed; "there were impurities in the water" This word was used at one of our conventions years ago refering to the worthless worldly people around the JW's including family members who wanted no part of their religion. A good term to use for them.

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