Just recieved this email off my mum

by Es 50 Replies latest jw friends

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  loosie

  Es, it sounds like you are better off without them. Although having grandparents is nice, it would be worse if he associated with toxic grandparents. You sound like a good mom. Sometimes grandparents have a tough time seeing and admitting where they are wrong so they have make it out to be like it's your fault. But its not your fault it's theirs.

  My mother thinks that it is her childrens fault that 75% of her kids and 90% of her grandkids don't talk to her. Of course it couldn't be because she is a lying manipulating backstabbing drunk... no no that's not it.

  Hugs ((Es))
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  Es

  thanks loosie, its such a pity but like you said i am better off without them, my sons better off without them

  es
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  freedomlover

  oh ES, so sorry for the mind games... :(
  
  we have been getting those kinds of letters from "loving" family members. they have been sending warped notes to our kids also - we've intervened on those. Like one from there grandma where she sends a letter about how much she misses them and yet at the same time sends pics of her working at a job about 1/2 hour from our new home and yet she didn't call or come see them. Hmm...that doesn't make any sense?! Then she adds all this stuff about the Memorial and how "mommy and daddy know all about the memorial - so you can ask them about it." BITE ME!!
  
  we won't play the passive aggressive games with these people. good for you for protecting yourself and your children from such toxic people!!
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  Es

  Thanks so much Freedom lover, they are there own worst enemies really

  es
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  ballistic

  Es, I feel sorry when I read these stories because my mother still contacts me. Why? Because we are seven children and most didn't take it up or were disfellowshipped. It is a shame that a human being can feel any less is too little loose. Very sad.

  I'm not saying this will answer your question but it may help towards it in the long term.

  My mother speaks to me because *most* of my family are in the position you are. There is too much for her to loose to obey what the elders have told her. Your mother believes word for word that if she does what the elders say you will go back.

  I have made it clear I don't believe it anymore.

  What is at stake here is power play.

  While your reply was heartfelt and comended by people here. You need to show you are not bothered. Your reply was too emotional. Far too much.

  Now, If I could apply this to my love life, I might get somewhere.

  In the best intention, regards.
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  deeskis

  ((((Es))))

  Well done on your letter of reply to your parents. You planted a seed, and gave them something to think about. Yes even if the UN, 607 etc does not convince them, the very fact of unconditional love is the main issue here. Love with conditions, and they can't even say the word.....As If!

  Do they really expect you to hand over your little boy to them for some brainwashing sessions!?!

  Keep your chin up Es, you've a lot to be proud about
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  Es

  thanks ballistic and deeskis...

  I have to disagree with you a little ballistic i didnt think my reply was that emotional, it was more here is where i stand...... i think my reply was more effective this way knowing what my folks are like rather than not replying or saying well i dont care kind of thing. But thanks anyway

  es
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  ballistic

  Well my reply wasn't so much disecting your email but trying to shed light on human nature. Of course I don't know you or your mother but have a think about it.
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  bikerchic

  ((((es))))

  I'm sorry you are going through this with your parents, it's really heart breaking what the WTS does to families.

  You're strong, your letter says it all and much better to be open and straight forward with them and dealing with what is then what you wish was.

  Take care of yourself and the little bubs!
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  damselfly

  Es~ That was such a smartly worded letter back on your part. You're standing firm in your convictins and not letting yourself become emotionally manipulated in regards to your son. I'm so proud of you.
  
  Love your preggo belly in that new pic!
  
  Dams