My dad died.... (page 4)

Mulan

I'm so sorry. My father died in January so I know a little of how you feel. To be estranged from him would have been excruciating.

Twitch

Sorry to hear the news,......

And to find out in such a way,.....

Hi Shelley, like the others Im just wondering how you are today.

Sorry about your loss. Some situations just stink! And its not all your fault. There are many people involved in your family's troubles and squabbles, not just you! Remember that!

What could you possibly have done that you cannot receive forgiveness???? That is not a question but a statement.

Its sickening to be stuck in a situation that cannot be resolved happily and successfully. I have been there. You must rise above this thing and look at it from a higher perspective.
Sometimes I do that in my mind I float high above the earth and look at my troubles way down there below and everything falls into place and makes some kind of sense somehow as I reduce them to the troubles of a little ant.

Let it all go Shelley. Let all this pain go. Let it dissipate into the air. Open yourself up to the future.
In the years to come you will understand today alot better. But for now, calm down and relax and breathe and see the clouds and hear the birds and realize today is a new day for you.

I think Flying High Now said it best. A new chapter opens in your life with the death of your father.
Perhaps a new freedom and new beginning for you!!
I have a strong feeling this is true for you.

Have a better day friend.

Anewme

LeslieV

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, and especially the way that you found out about it. Please do not go back to substance abuse, the only person that will get hurt is you. I am thinking of you!!!

Leslie

Blueblades

Jesus Wept! Crying is good for us. Let it out. Time has to pass. Live for the now. The past is gone. We are all going to the grave. Live your life for yourself and your family and keep busy.

We are weeping with you. Very sorry for what you are now going through.

Blueblades and family.

HadEnuf

My dear...don't let any type of guilt get the better of you. You are not guilty of anything...especially since you tried to reconcile. Hopefully you can find some sort of peace knowing that you tried. I am so sorry for your loss. My mother, who shuns me, is in her mid 80's and I know the day is coming when she'll pass away. I won't be invited to the funeral...if I'm even told about it I will be surprised. So I have kind of psyched myself up for that when it occurs. But you are facing this reality now...and I can only imagine how much it hurts. I hope you have someone to hold you close and let you know that you are loved. Remember there is a whole community of people on this forum who may not know you personally...but can most likely relate to your situation. Hang on. Just hang on.

Hug...cathy l.

lawrence

My heart goes out to you. I want to wish you peace of heart and peace of mind.

Robdar

(((((Shelley)))))

Narkissos

((((((((((((((Shelley)))))))))))))))

My dad died over 2 years ago. I loved him very very much but due to a very complex situation (religion being only the tip of the iceberg) I hadn't seen him for several years. I believe we had reached a tacit agreement that it was better this way, because our last meetings had become increasingly painful and fruitless. He only met his only granddaughter a couple of times and practically ignored her.

I went to the funeral though and when it was over (and the rest of the family gone) I went back to the cimetary and had my own closure/farewell ritual there.

The silence which follows an ended relationship is something you must make sense of alone. You will find your own way of doing so, which will lead to peace. Whatever he was to you he still is and will always be.

Please take good care of yourself.

Hamboozled

So sorry for your loss.

My dad died....