To be a Nice Apostate or a Mean Apostate.....

by AK - Jeff 39 Replies latest jw friends

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  AK - Jeff

  ..... that is the question.

  How do you react - and is it a 'planned reaction', when confronted with Jdubs in public?

  I have personally determined that I will not allow people whom I knew for 40 years in some cases to 'shun' me without a cost to the reputation of their religion in the eyes of those who see it.

  If I come face to face with a witness who turns the other way or rudely brushes past [as if I am dead], I will point out to all in the area [carefull not to appear the raving lunatic] that this is the way Jehovah's witnesses act toward one who has quietly left their faith.

  I expect two things will begin to happen as a result.

  1- Witnesses will become so paranoid of the possiblility of meeting me and being embarrassed in public, that they will alter their schedules to avoid the places I might be. [I have actually seen this. I go to an uptown coffee bar daily - witnesses used to go there often - now they only go there on the times they know I am at work]

  2- They will soften their shunning style realizing how much reproach I can bring on 'Jehovah's organization' otherwise.

  This has been my position since I left three years ago. I have not had to exercise my approach that often, but suspect that now that I am Da'd officially I may have to do so.

  How 'bout you? Are you a good little 'postate? Or not?

  Jeff
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  lovelylil

  I do reverse shunning. I throw my hands up in front of my face as if I just saw something horrible, (sometimes gasping) and then I turn and run the other way. In other words I act the same way they would act towards me if I gave them the chance which is totally repulsed. And since I did nothing wrong and I was the one abused by this cult, I don't let any of them have any power to abuse or mistreat me any longer.

  I did this to one JW the a few weeks ago in the local Walmart. My daughter was with me and she told me the reaction of the jbubs face when I did that was so hillarious she almost wet her pants laughing. Anyway the jbub (spelled this way on purpose) hurried out of the store after that! Lilly
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  lovelylil

  oh, so I guess that would make me a mean postate?
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  Mary

  If I come face to face with a witness who turns the other way or rudely brushes past [as if I am dead], I will point out to all in the area [carefull not to appear the raving lunatic] that this is the way Jehovah's witnesses act toward one who has quietly left their faith.

  An excellent strategy, but a tricky one. If you're in a crowded area and you pointed this out to people, it would most certainly embarrass the Witness because they know from a 'worldly' point of view how inhumane it seems. Then again, they might just view it as 'persecution' from Satan de Debbil's newest recruit------YOU!
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  AK - Jeff

  Then again, they might just view it as 'persecution' from Satan de Debbil's newest recruit------YOU!

  Mary, Could it be the same Devilish soul who puts reformatted kn37's on the door of the KH?

  Paint me evil! LOL

  Lilly - I like your idea. What a hoot!

  Jeff
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  Mary

  Mary, Could it be the same Devilish soul who puts reformatted kn37's on the door of the KH?

  Ahem......Geeze Jeff, where did you get a reformatted kn37 from?

  
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  gordon d

  How 'bout the Romans 12:20 Approach.....
  "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head."
  
  I think the only thing that has made a real impact on those that knew me before and after my escape is that when a person can show compassion, love, and be a walking testimony to Christ (without the sanctioning of the FDS) the entire foundation of the FDS lie comes crumbling down.
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  moshe

  I don't know any JW's around here personally to be shunned by.

  But back at my old KH's I used to be about as vocal as Jeff. They hate to be embarrassed in public over their shunning tactics. Shunning works if the individual wants to get back into the Org. But for the rest of us, we don't care if JW's get upset when we vocally protest their treatment. It is our way of spreading the not-so-good news about Jehovah's Witnesses. I was so hard on the JW's in my old town that they stopped going into the local grocery to avoid me. It's really sad, because if they try and act civil to a Df'd person and get seen by another JW, then they could be ratted out to the Elders.
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  megsmomma

  "As for me and my household....we shall be nice postates" We have this hanging in our kitchen. JK.....I also have no one around here that knows me, so I don't get faced with shunning when I go about daily life. If I was around that though....I am sure I would have to show the DUB that it is ridiculous to act as if I have joined a satanic cult when they see me. I do try to act as if I am no different around my mom (on that oh so rare occasion)....but it makes her mad and then she has to say I am going to DIE DIE DIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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  ButtLight

  Im not one who cares for conflict, so when they shun me in public, I get upset, but keep my mouth shut. Now, get a few buds in me, and my mouth may open wider than the grand canyon!