To be a Nice Apostate or a Mean Apostate..... (page 4)

XU

sKally, ok not nuts, just really brave and awesome. a champion of the apostapeoples! I think people in the neighborhood would listen to someone who could look them in the eye and have a dialogue with them. dubs just talk at you and won't directly answer challenging questions. it drives normal people crazy. If you use logic, you have the edge over witness drones.

gordon d

Hey Wanderer,
The college you attend has some witnesses??.... Well if they're there for any reason other than mowing the grass or cleaning the windows... I'M TELLIN'!!!!

blondie

I figure I won't let them dictate to me what kind of person I am and how I will act. I'm always friendly to the JWs I meet. Of course, I am still in the nebulous stage of beng inactive and not attending meetings. But there are always some that will personally DF you. I figure if they are ever going to approach me with a question, it won't happen if I bite off their heads when I run into them. Kill them with kindness.

Blondie

gordon d

Damn sKally!
Finally, someone who does something more than whine! Following Dubs door-to-door... THAT IS ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT!!!
You do realize that crazy demoniacs trying to stop this vital work is a sign of being in the last-minute-of-the-last-hour-of-the-last-day though.. don't you????

YOU ROCK!!!

Gordon

P.S. In what city did this take place?

Seeker4

I struggle with this a bit myself. It was announced over a year ago that I was no longer a JW, and since then I have some Witnesses who still say hi, and others that shun me. Too odd.

I try to always say hi and smile, though when I get caught by surprise by a Witness, I often find myself reacting and looking away, only to wish I hadn't done that. When I have a choice, I try to be nice, friendly, looking happy and relaxed.

Now, when I'm shunned, I go from confronting them to laughing at them. I'm still working on that. I'm more and more determined to make a bit of an issue when these things happen publicly. Like noting out loud that these people have to pretend not to see me because I'm no longer a Witness.

It makes every trip to the supermarket a bit of a stomach churning experience, but I hope I'm getting better at that.

Part of my situation is that I still live in the area where I was an elder in the congregation for 15 years, and was there since I was baptized at 11. I'm also fairly well known in the community, as I'm the editor of the largest weekly newspaper in my part of the state. So I'm pretty high profile. It would have been much easier to have moved out of the area, but that isn't about to happen.

I appreciate these responses. It's given me a lot to think about. I've felt from day one that I'm not going to acknowledge that the Witnesses have any authority over me as to who I'll talk to or not talk to.

S4

AK - Jeff

Ahem......Geeze Jeff, where did you get a reformatted kn37 from?

It was Mary - I confess. May I have a cigarette and blindfold ?

Jeff

AK - Jeff

sKally - You rock big time.

Wow! I love the story and your personal moxy!

I have need of an individual right here to work my territory. Could you move where the need is greater? I'll put a damn apartment in the bottom of my non-Kingdom Hall for ya'.....

Jeff

becca1

I did not have time to read all these posts. Lovelylil: I am sorry for the way your children were treated-how vey unchristian.

As for me, I am a fader so I have not experienced shunning yet. But I think I will always try to be nice. Say hello and wave at least. Let them show their true colors and be ugly.

JWdaughter

I promise I will be nice and never cross sKally! Yikes, I almost(not quite) felt sorry for the poor deluded JWs. . .pppfffftttt.

sass_my_frass

I have to say that I am still unable to let my pity and compassion for them outweigh my hurt and contempt. I've only had a few shunning incidents and each time I've ignored them back. One day I was at lunch with Mr Frass and in walks a couple I used to see occasionally, and they were seated right next to us, arms reach... Half an hour I ignored them for. Afterwards I thought of all the things I should have said, the way I should have reacted immediately, and all that. I guess I just go with my first reaction - and that is to treat them as invisibly as they treat me. In one way I wish I could be a little more proactive and forgiving, just in case they're on their way out themselves and need a friend, but hey you can't care about every damn thing.

To be a Nice Apostate or a Mean Apostate.....

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