In love with a witnesss....

by city girl 37 Replies latest jw friends

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  OnTheWayOut

  he himself does not agree with everything the JW's believe in. I feel that the only way our relationship can work is that if I convert. I am willing to do so, to an extent...but I do not believe everything the witnesses do.

  Are you totally aware of what "not agreeing with everything the JW's believe in" means? Ask them what it means. You must be in total agreement or you can be disfellowshipped. This is not one of those religions that allows you to accept as much as YOU want to accept, it's all or nothing. And you can't just JOIN for a family member or potential mate, you can study with JW's because of that person, but you must truly accept EVERYTHING they teach before baptism.
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  dawgfan

  "I feel that the only way our relationship can work is that if I convert."

  --I'm sure he's a great guy but think through all the consequences that you will put yourself through by joining a cult. Its not worth it.
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  return visitor

  Hi city Girl,

  Welcome to the board, I think that it's great that you found the man of your dreams. Be carefull that you are not blinded by that love. If you intend to have children together and that child, God forbid, gets hurt and needs blood, as a witness you could not let him have it or you would be disfellowshipped and shunned. So you see that to be a Witness or not can be a life or death decision.

  Good luck,

  RV
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  jaguarbass

  Being a Jw you would be much more controlled than a person who converts to catholicism.

  Its a negative world, you cant come on to an anti-jw website and expect to get two thumbs up. But the fact that there is not a pro Jw discussion board should tell you something.

  If you were to become a catholic for example, you could fornicate, adulterate, cheat, steel,lie and murder during the week as long as you take confession and go to mass your good to go. The Jws are nothing like that.
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  inlove

  I am too am "inlove" with a JW, he was DA because we had prematial sex, but now he wants to go back. I did not know much about JW's and thought it would pretty much like any other religion, but with different beliefs and some non association with the world. So I encouraged him to go back, even supported him. Boy was I wrong. I started studying and looking things up on the internet and WOW were my eyes opened. I wish I had checked out the beliefs and org. long before we were married. He got DA becasue of me, and I think I could have shown him many things about JW's at that time. But now that we are married, he is free to seek reinstatment and does not feel like he needs to listen to me, because I have already married him. We are still trying to work things out. I know I can never ever be a JW on any level, but I fear for the well being of my husband. They are so hard on the men and we will not have our own marriage. It will be the Me, My Husband and The WatchTower.

  My husband is the most amazing man, but when it comes to this he is brain washed. I don't want him hurt anymore by their lies.

  Try freeminds.com for lots of info on the false teaching and wrong doing in governing body.

  I found this article called "I'm in Love With a Jehovah's Witness!" by Timothy Campbell. It helped me.
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  ColdRedRain

  Don't do it, Davey!
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  StillGroggy

  RUN
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  sass_my_frass

  Run, run as fast as you can from any attempt to change you. You can't be a 'ceremonial' JW, it's all or nothing. And I mean ALL, it's your social life, your job, all of your friends, and you trying to bring your family in too. His kid and any kids you have will HAVE to be JWs.

  Look on the 'relationships' section of this board, somebody in your situation joins us here every week.
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  crazyblondeb

  I just wanted to jump in and say hello!! There's really nothing I can add to what has been said. Please do alot of research. What everyone has said is what it's like. You know how here in the US we are guaranteed "Freedom"? Well, if you do this, you loose your freedom, in every aspect!!

  shelley
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  HAL9000

  Hello City Girl & welcome!!

  I am not a witness - my wife is studying with them and has had a number (!) of concerted attempts using all sorts of ploys & tactics to get me to join in - this has been going on for the past 5 years.

  My response? No way in the world would I consider joining the JWs after having read & researched enough to sate my curiousity. PLEASE read, ask questions (especially in this forum) and above all do not be duped into thinking that you can be a ceremonial JW. They do not exist.

  Beware also the "love bombing" that a potential recruit is subjected to: Believe me, I know but I am sufficiently cynical to se past that.

  Hope you find what you are looking for here - I certainly have.

  h9k