Should I just say no? (page 2)

unique1

Bojangles and Boston Market are offering Turkey dinners this year. Perhaps you could just swing by and pick one up.

If my partner had his way we would never see him again. This is mostly to try to keep some peace between his mom and dad as their home is an absolute war zone. A bit of history, The brother is 48 now lives at home can't keep a job because of alcohol. Mom is always there to bail him out of any situation. Bought him a new truck that she paid cash for. I can't remember how many vehicles she has bought for him. It is too late for tough love. She allows no alcohol whatsoever in her home and so John blames his mother for his being in jail since he can't drink at home. It is a sorry situation and I am out of advice for any of them. I just let her vent to me. One time John is with Satan and the next he is with Jesus. So Bi Polar. I think I need a good long vacation away from that whole damn bunch.

Sparkplug

Absolutely not!!!!!!!!! He is uncouth I tried that one time took him to Outback Steakhouse and took out his pocket knife (a very big one) to cut his steak and he sounds like Homer Simpson when he eats

I love you!!! I swear I bet you could just stab a person who eats with his mouth open with a fork in the neck also. LMAO. I just love it! I say get through it, and later you willl have more info for the chapter of your book that lets you laugh at people. It could be a great scene out of a Quentin Tarantino movie. Just a dance with a lil twist! haha

You can do this. Just fluff the flour on your face... pull out the old 'Birdcage PIRN pills' and dramatically wipe your brow. Come on out with the bird and declare. "I dunt no nuttin bout bithin no babies ms Scarlett".

Scully

I am cooking a big thanksgiving dinner and his mom wants me to duplicate it when the a**hole gets home and cook a big dinner for x-mas too.

If his mom wants to celebrate his homecoming (won't he be getting a kind of Thanksgiving dinner at the penetentiary anyway?) then she can damn well make the meal. You could just save a platter of leftovers for the "a**hole" and put it on a paper plate and send it home with your "MIL"

Holy crap, hambeak, you've just been through a major health crisis among the other stresses in your life. You don't need this BS. Honestly, why don't you and Jake go away for Christmas or find another way to celebrate the day without toxic relatives ruining things for you?

BabaYaga

Good gods, Honey, that house and all the people in it are SCREWED UP and just making things WORSE instead of better.

ESPECIALLY if yer Darlin' doesn't want to deal with it either, for the love of gods and all that is holy on toast, just let the grossly enabling Mother put on her own shin-dig. Plus if it's at her house, you two can excuse yourselves and leave after a "welcome home".

Parents like this make me crazy. What good do they think they are doing for ANYONE by actually REWARDING his b#llsh!t? I don't suppose they paid cash for Jake's last automobile!!! Agh.

Dang. I kinda went on a rant, there. So maddening.

Cheers,
Baba.

hambeak

I just got off the phone with her and god I am so tired. Jake is going to Calif Dec 1 - 4 for his new album being released before x-mas. His mom wants to know if I will drive the 4 hours to Huntsville to get John if Jake isn't back. I told her no John gets $50.00 and a bus ticket to Dallas he can do that. Jake will pick him up if he is here. I sure as hell won't go I think I need Dr Phil LOL By the way I cook every Sunday for them and haul all the food over there to their home they can't climb the stairs to my place. So its cook clean drive eat clean drive clean and put it all away. I am not looking forward to thursday.

BCZAR2ME

So there is a limit or "condition" to your love for your brother? What would Christ do?

bczar

katiekitten

Hambeak, my lovely. DONT COOK FOR HIM.

You never had to celebrate xmas when you were a Witless. Only do the bits that you really enjoy, now you are able to do what you want.

Have a relapse. Fall ill. Pretend you are in hospital. One way or another dont do it, because you and Jake will both resent it. And what a waste of a precious day off.

Or just say "sorry mummy in law, I cant do it", and dont give a reason. Just resist giving a reason, but at best act all mysterious like there is a really important reason that you are not at liberty to share.

If you dont want to do it, then I think we can all take it as red that the guy REALLY doesnt deserve it.

daystar

3rd DWI, huh? Don't be an enabler.

I choose not to associate with anyone I please. We're not talking about a forced shunning of a dearly loved one here. We're talking about someone you simply don't want in your life. I see no problem with that.

I cleaned up my circle of friends a few years ago. All the ones who weren't going anywhere, who were always borrowing money from me, etc. ... gone. Sometimes you have to make tough decisions to improve your life. I now have many fewer friends, but they're good friends and the sort I want around me.

Birds of a feather flock together.

Sparkplug

know if I will drive the 4 hours to Huntsville to get John if Jake isn't back. I told her no John gets $50.00 and a bus ticket to Dallas he can do that.

Now. There you are talking. I also say, screw it all. Come have dinner with Us on Thursday. My roommate is cooking and then leaving to his girlfriends. So I am hooked up. The kids and I and Slayer Layer would love to have you come join us. You and Jake. Serious on this one. Are you up to a housefull of funny people that would love your company for an afternoon?

I say screw it. Come and dine with us!

Decki

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