by OnTheWayOut 42 Replies latest jw friends
When I stopped reporting, I just stopped turning in a slip. After three months, I turned one in for all three months, with one hour, and no placements. I did that a few times and then just quit reporting ever. No one ever called me to find out why, and this is just a couple of years after I stopped pioneering.
One of our friends turned in a slip that said, "Jehovah knows".
You have all been very helpful and reminded me what the purpose of my
fade is. Many of you say "Just stop going to the meetings at all."
I am only in meeting withdrawal for the sake of my wife. If I quit
cold turkey, she will probably not listen to my concerns. If I continue to
cut back for a few more months, I feel I can get further with her. Just so
all of you know, I have no doubts about the mind-control cult, but what I
have said to the elders and my wife is "I have doubts." I cannot just decide
that WTS is wrong, I avoid DF by going out with doubts.
You all might be right. I could just stop going now. Just for caution's sake,
I will continue the fade for a few months, then stop going. I will turn in ZERO
hours with no comments. I will go 4 more months to total inactive. By then, I
should be at ZERO PERCENT of the meetings. This is a big step for me,
hence the caution. Thanks for the support.
Oh, my other family member- my mother. I haven't talked with her about any
of this. I have non-JW siblings that are working on her. They are trying to
undermine the WTS from the point of view that they are a mind-control cult.
I sort of hope to continue fading (not stop entirely) until she approaches me.
I truly believe my mother will be easier to convince than my wife. This is part
of my reason for not quitting cold turkey (Now I am hungry thinking of turkey.)
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