HELP! Trying to convince my parents I am going to meetings! (page 2)

minimus

Read her comments from day one. She's not legit. (Undercover, you're funny!).

I have read the Bible as many of you have, can't find one case of Jesus or the apostles or anyone else in the congr's badgering, annoying others, spying, setting up networks to check in on other Christians in the first century. By their fruits you will recognize them is what I was told.

mrsjones5

I think the problem here Mini is Stilla may be on her own shackin up with her boyfriend but in her mind she's still a kid under her parents' roof.

When I was 26 I was shackin up with my now husband and I didn't tell my parents. Know how they found out? They popped over one early Saturday morning and was greeted by both of us in our houserobes (yeah we were naked underneath ).

Stilla, I agree with everyone else - tell your parents the truth.

Josie

nicolaou

And please no "honesty is the best policy" stuff.

Then I for one have nothing for you. Hope that doesn't sound harsh, but we've all been here before Stilla'.

minimus

Just re-read all her threads. They don't make sense. From how the elders and CO were (from earlier threads) to how her parents acted. She supposedly lives with a man, her boyfriend, the parents have no clue, the elders in the new Hall have her number, leave messages,she's lying to everyone all the time, the Secretary must be having fits holding onto her slips for keeping regular after 7 months (as Blondie points out in the last thread),.....it's ridiculous.

Finally-Free

And please no "honesty is the best policy" stuff.

Sorry, but I have to say it anyway. Truth is like a bowel movement. Sooner or later it has to come out. Do it regularly and there are few problems, and you have more control. Hold it back too long and the pressure builds to the point where the release can be explosive, and who knows where the shit's gonna fly.

Do yourself a favour. Be honest and truthful. It hurts less, and it is more likely to earn your parents respect than deception.

W

avidbiblereader

John 8:32

32b and the truth will set you free."

Do you want to be free? Maybe not, the choice is yours.

juni

Stilla:

Honesty is the best policy. Yes, it's hard to confront your parents, but you are not a kid anymore. You are making your own choices now. With growing up comes responsibility- either go on with your life apart from the whole JW thing including your parents (if you feel they will shun you) and be willing to be up front with them about your decision OR continue waffling in the wind by hiding out and lying to avoid the truth about what you want for your life.

It's not fun or easy to stand on your own and separate from the "good" life you had w/mom and dad. I.E. material things. (I remember from past posts of yours) But it's your life now. Mom and Dad brought you this far - time to cut the apron strings and make the difficult decisions. This is a sign of maturity.

Your decision w/this will show you how far you've matured and if you need to "buck" up and have a talk w/yourself. This is not the only hard decision you will have to make in your life. It's only the beginning....

Juni

Scully

And please no "honesty is the best policy" stuff.

Are you kidding?

Ultimately what you do is your choice. Your parents kicked you out of their house already because you weren't living up to their JW expectations. You moved in with your boyfriend (who you were keeping a dirty-little-secret before you moved out). I tell ya, if my parents kicked me out of their house under the circumstances you described, it would be a long time before I spoke to them again.

What I don't get is why you are still in touch with your parents and trying to maintain the façade of a little goodie-two-shoes desperate for their approval at any cost. I mean, your lifestyle is screaming that you don't care about their opinion of you and your choices, otherwise you'd still be going to meetings and door-to-door.

Quit pretending to be someone you aren't. You don't want to be a JW, so stop acting like one. Be who you want to be. Stop cowering to these control freak people - they rejected you, it's time to reject them and start being your own person, instead of being jerked around like a puppet on a string. You owe your boyfriend, at the very least, to treat him with the dignity he deserves as a person, instead of hiding your relationship with him like it's a dirty little secret. If he's a good person, and you love him, then be proud of the relationship you have with him. Stop pretending. Just stop it.

jwfacts

I lived in a part of Sydney that was full of units, so people moved in and out all the time. We had several young brothers move into my congregation, turn up once or twice and then never again. They were basically unknown so forgotten. Don't worry about sending it far away, just send it to your own congregation, but don't bother going to any meetings. That way you won't be known and so they can not say you are part of the congregation, or that you are seen to be bringing reproach on Jehovah.

Honesty is the best policy. I have only just started to learn that people are not supposed to live to get the approval of others. I know it is hard, but you are creating problems for yourself by not living the way that is right for you. I now regret that I lost 10 years pretending to be what I wasn't so that I would get the approval of my family. I am not saying to rush out and 'confess' to your parents, but eventually everything will all come out anyway, but do not be in fear of that. You will be happier once you no longer feel that you have to hide from others.

HELP! Trying to convince my parents I am going to meetings!

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