truthseeker - You've got some really great suggestion here! Very few people get their spouse to leave Watchtower land quickly! Take your time, but take your stand!
Do not go to the meetings.
Do not go to Field Service.
You are finished with Watchtower land.
What you are not finished with is your wife. You love her more than anything.
I can only tell you what my husband did. For years he did what you are doing, go to a few meetings, occassional FS! It wore him down to the point where he had had enough not only of Watchtower land but me to.
He had been very quiet for a few weeks. I asked him what was the matter and he stood his full height and said: 'I am never going to the meetings again. I will never go out on FS again. I never want to read another Watchtower publication again.'
'Why!' I asked frantically.
'Because it's all RUBBISH! You can go to meetings. I'll take you. Whatever, I'll help you but I will never go again.'
I insisted on going. I was ignored after a few weeks of people asking where my husband was. Then, a few weeks later, no one was talking to me at all. Six months later, I found myself sitting in the library, struggling with three of my kids who also didn't want to be there. The talk finished. I looked at all those holier that thou faces in the KH and decided I would never, ever go to the KH again. I would rather die than spend time with those smug arse holes.
Throughout that time my husband had been kind, patient, helpful. He would take and fetch me from meetings and FS.
I had to decide. What I had infact decided was that I would rather die with the man I loved that live forever with those arrogant arses.
Nearly a year later I stumbled across JW sites on the internet and I've been kicking myself ever since.
What I'm saying is that your wife has to wake up from her nightmare on her own. She has to discover the truth about Da Troof and understand it and want to understand it herself.
All you have to do is give her an alternative to the lies of the Watchtower. You can give her real help and support but not necessarily by going along to meetings etc.
I hope it all goes well for you. Patience is the only real issue.
We never ever argued about the Watchtower Society. I respected him enough to know that he meant 'NO' when he said it. He respected me enough not to force me to not go to meetings but to help me to do what I thought I wanted to do.
But it was his example that saved me in the end. I wanted the happiness we had when we were at home to be there all the time. I didn't in the end, want to go to meetings with those nasty cold people any more.
Good luck, Truthseeker!
