by minimus 102 Replies latest jw friends
It's impossible to go back and really remain true to yourself. Repeating lies over and over causes the line between truth and reality to blur, no matter how strong the mind is. I know some do it and are successful in what they want to accomplish, but they don't seem to be happy doing so.
Each of us has to do what we feel we must.
WLG
In my heart of hearts, I think I could N E V E R E V E R go back for any reason but who knows what you could or would do for the ones you love?------------ This thread's not just about Gumby, btw------. It gives us a good reason to think about how hard it is to deal with personal matters. We may easily judge another person for their life's decisions but we don't live THEIR life. I've heard people say how they would NEVER do this or that and when that time comes for THEM, they surprise even themselves.
Minimus..That was quite a friggin shocker!..I could never go back either...OUTLAW
My life situation was never such that I would have to be reinstated for family reasons. I don't think I could. I have always been mad at my family that were jw's. Mad at my mother for exposing me to the poison. But having said that I think to be reinstated for family reasons might be a lot like being a catholic. Once your back in good graces just do the minimum. Go to the memorial and I doubt you have to go door to door. They dont disfelloship you for not going door to door. And if you did have to go door to door you could falsify the time. Once your back in I doubt you have to do anything just stay off their radar. You probably wouldnt even have to go to the memorial.
Kid-A said: Ultimately, it is a decision that will possibly postpone disaster, but not prevent it, once all the simmering resentment underneath reaches its boiling point.
Hon, you must be psychic, because that's exactly what I told Gumbers the other day. He realizes he might be making a big mistake, but he feels he has to at least give it a shot. His mom is elderly and told him that she was "the happiest woman in the world" when he told her he was getting reinstated. His grandkids are thrilled that they can now have a normal relationship with him and his sisters are thrilled to have him back. Some people can do it, others try but ultimately cannot and some would rather stick needles in their eyes then go back.
For now, he feels he can handle it. He took his grandson golfing the other day and I believe it was one of the happiest days of both their lives. I'm hoping that if the time comes where he decides he can't do it anymore, that his grandkids can see there's something wrong with a religion that would treat such a good person in such a shit manner.
"For now, he feels he can handle it. He took his grandson golfing the other day and I believe it was one of the happiest days of both their lives."
Thats good to hear Mary. Lets hope he can do a successful fade if sitting through meetings, book studies and conventions becomes unbearable.
I have no doubt Gumby has his personal reasons that we cannot understand. I wish him the best.
Ok, now I'm really p*ssed
...that ole Gumbers should be made to feel so bad that he has to go to such lengths with a sack-o-shyte organisation to get his family back! It must be brain-numbing, knowing what he knows! On top of that, that explains why we've seen so little of him, and I miss my ole nutshinin' buddy!
I know he won't mind me relating this story, but I called him up a couple of years ago on Thanksgiving. He was a little maudeline, as he had the house to himself and the rest of the family were visiting other family for a turkey dinner (not Thanksgiving, of course, you understand) and he was excluded.
Personally I would rather perform an auto-frontal-lobotomy (preferably with a .45) before going back. I do understand that some find themselves in a different place, however, and I totally respect their responsibility to make their own choices.
Gah, thinking about this really does make me feel sick, though
Gumbobbit, we love ya bro. Do what you have to do, but keep your head in one piece and visit us, huh?
{{{hugs}}}
If I were in Gumby's place (which I'm not) I'd try to stay away from here. Constantly being reminded of the stupidily and falseness of the religion might be too much to take.
If I were in Gumby's place (which I'm not) I'd try to stay away from here. Constantly being reminded of the stupidily and falseness of the religion might be too much to take.
Hon, he's reminded of the stupidity and falseness of the religion every time he walks through the doors of the Kingdumb Hell. I think he needs to keep posting here because otherwise, his world is going to get smaller and smaller until it consists of nothing but braindead Witnesses. That's what they do: cut you off from all outside association so that it's harder and harder to leave. I've told him that he's got lots of support here and I think he's grateful for that......IMO, the worst thing in the world he could do is to stop posting.
Re: Your Feelings On Getting Reinstated For Family Considerations
None whatsoever!. Any of my family who want to play the watchtower you've been a bad boy game, can kiss my yankee dick.
Especially where none have had the balls to even ask what happened. A resounding SCREW THEM!
Dismembered
