Oh thank you so much for the kind remarks. I need encouragement right now. No matter how much I feel that I was "right", I still love them and it still hurts.
Renee
Letter from my mom. What do you think of my response?
by reneeisorym 37 Replies latest jw friends
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AK - Jeff
I think your response is pretty well done.
I would more specifically indicate that you have never cut them off - they can be a part of all of it if they want to be - they have chosen to do so based on the teaching of a sectarian religion. Your comments about not wishing to live a lie and that you have examined the teachings is spot on, IMO.
Jeff
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JWdaughter
That you wrote such a kind and loving letter in response to hers shows more about your character than religious affiliation EVER could.
I thought that your mom's letter was so cruel-talking about you like she was writing a letter to a dead person. I wanted to cry, and I am thinking you must have done so. I hope your new family is as wonderful as you truly deserve, and appreciates you and loves you.
If I could, I would stand for your mom. . .She is missing out on sharing this day with a truly wonderful daughter. Mostly I simply disdain the WT. Today, on your behalf, I think I hate it.
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Kenneson
Congratulations! Hope you much happiness.
I liked everything you wrote, but I think I would conclude with this one liner--Love you Mom.
Your daughter,
Renee
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becca1
Your letter is good. You state your feelings w/o belittleing your mom. She will respect you for that even if she never admits it.
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reneeisorym
I wanted to cry, and I am thinking you must have done so.
Yeah. My coworkers probably think I'm nuts now because I had tears running down my face when I read it. I do hope she doesn't write back for a while. I don't know if my emotions can handle anymore of these letters. Usually it takes a back and forth for a bit and then she cools off for 2 months. We'll see.
Renee
P.S. I'M NOT DEAD!!!
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Nellie
Renee,
My heart goes out to you at this time. I hope you have an aunt or other mature woman in your life that you can count on as a surrogate. I was also very close to my mother (she died 2 1/2 years ago) and I couldn't imagine planning or going through my wedding without her. Feel the feelings as they come now and work through them - I wish you nothing but joy on your wedding day!
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reneeisorym
Thank you so much. No, I haven't found a woman I can talk to like I did with my mother. I have my cousin that acts like my second dad but no one has fit the bill for a second mom yet. Maybe one day.
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sass_my_frass
It's good, I like it. It's important, every time we have contact with them, that they know that we love them - every time might be the last time...
Can you add somehow that she'll always regret not being there, and that it's entirely her choice? It's harsh, but we can make it too easy on them. I like to make a big deal of their choices, because it's not like we can do anything different is it? The only way we could fix it would be to go back not believing it, and why would anybody want that?
I feel that if I come it will put a dark cloud over it.
That's true... my mum came to my wedding in the end, and she was a total fun vacuum, I couldn't be myself and everybody was walking on eggshells. Now I have to be grateful for the rest of her life that she made this incredible sacrifice for me.... *yawn*
Have a great time planning your wedding!!
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sass_my_frass
I do hope she doesn't write back for a while. I don't know if my emotions can handle anymore of these letters.
Yeah, I'm getting that way. It's a lose-lose, still being in each other's lives. Any contact with my family sends me back a couple of months.