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free2think

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Welcome to JWD.

free2think

WELCOME to the forum!!! We are so glad you are here!! You will find much love and support by many who understand what you are going through. Please think it through VERY carefully before you make any rash decisions on how to leave. My suggestion is to be VERY gradual if you can fade. If you move away, it would be easier. However, when they find you aren't going to meetings the result maybe the same. Our family who live out of state completely disowned us when they found out we had not been going to meetings. So the result was the same. I wonder if you can start your fade there, then if you move and they find out you hardly ever go to meetings, they won't be so shocked and cut you off.

Anyway, we are glad you woke up while you are still young. We look forward to hearing how you began to question things, and how did you find this forum??

Sincerely,

Lady Liberty

unique1

I would suggest moving out and into another congregations district so your parents won't call you after every meeting you miss to find out why. If you can move out and into another circuit and still be near your social network, it will make the fade easier. I moved 20 minutes away and was able to fade until I moved back. Sure elders told my elder dad that I didnt' attend many meetings but when he would ask about it I would just say I didn't feel like discussing it, shrug and walk off.

Welcome and GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!!

lavendar

Good for you, GoTan! At least you possess the brains and common sense to see through this cult. Congratulations! Perhaps someday YOU will be the one who will help your other family members out of it.

Lavendar

LeslieV

Welcome to the board. If you live at home it would be almost impossible to stop without living the consequences of that decision. If you do have an education, hopefully you have a job that will support you. Find an apartment that you can afford out of the KH that you attend now. It really is alittle easier away from those that know you well. Offer to work 2nd or 3rd shift if available. Keeps you out of the KH. Leave alittle at a time. The most important thing is you have to go at a pace that you can live with. Remember no matter what anyone tells you..it is your life.

Good luck and keep coming back.

Leslie

GoTan

unfortunatly it is rather impossible, i have family all over the county (this is Ireland) and work a pretty regular 9-5, no night shifts needed. sometimes i think it would be nice just to disappear away for a few months and then tell them whats going on. Isn't it horrid feeling trapped?

LeslieV

Geee Go seems like you are between a rock and hard place. Could your education be used moving away from Ireland? I hate to say that since Ireland is so beautiful, but doesn't seem to be an easy answer.

Take your time to make any decision. Remember it has taken years to be brainwashed, it takes time for your brain to be washed cleaned from the cults influence. I personally do not believe that anyone that has been in this controlling religion does not bear some kind of scars to prove they have been in the cult. Leaving is a process...do it in steps and it will not seem so overwhelming. We are here for you.

Leslie

I Know what I like, and I like what I know

I am in the middle of this also. I moved to another district a few years ago and then stopped going to KH. Elders visited once and a while but I told them that I needed time ( after my wife left me for a JW ). I also think fading is better. I still have good contact with my family, I know this will be a lot harder after DF or DA, if not impossible. One thing I know for sure, the "truth" doesn't set mee free! So no way am I going back. I feel free now. And if I am being honest to myself, I have had this strange feeling about the "truth" ( how I hate that word! ) for 20 years! I just ignored my feelings about it. It feels better to know that there are ( a lot ) more suffering with all this.

Phil

Welcome to your new home.

Lots of good advice here. Hand in there.

JWdaughter

Welcome to the world!

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