Dawg beat me to it. Let it go.
Disfellowshipping, shunning, most everything about WTS is wrong. Just because you were
hurt (okay- beyond hurt) by a JW, there's no need to prove yourself to his family and
attempt to get him disfellowshipped. If you think I am wrong, then fine- you did it and you
gave it a shot. Let it go after your shot was fired. You proved yourself the victim to his
family and they didn't listen. You tried to get him disfellowshipped and (as far as you know)
nothing happened.
WALK AWAY in peace. Separation and divorce are about moving on with your life. I do
understand the desire for hurting back, but that desire causes yourself more pain. You
go for the house and the car and the time-share and the bank account, but after the dust
settles (the lawyers are finished) you walk away. You may not meet for coffee, but you
don't have to remain in war camps with an ex. It just causes ulcers and heart problems and
eating disorders and need for lots of therapy FOR YOU.
I am totally trusting of my wife, and that means she would really violate me if she cheated
(or for that matter, spied on me for the elders). I would be totally unforgiving. But after I get
out of a situation, I would hope that I stop dragging myself back into it. Let it go.