from dale carnegie...
Lincoln believed, according to Herndon, his law partner, that “No man was to be eulogized for what he did; or censured for what he did or did not do,” because “all of us are the children of conditions, of circumstances, of environment, of education, of acquired habits and of heredity molding men as they are and will forever be.”
Perhaps Lincoln was right. If you and I inherited the same physical, mental, and emotional characteristics that our enemies have inherited, and if life had done to us what it has done to them, we would act exactly as they do. We couldn’t possibly do anything else.
Let’s be charitable enough to repeat the prayer of the Sioux Indians:
“...keep me from ever judging and criticizing a man until I have walked in his moccasins for two weeks.”
So instead of hating our enemies, let’s pity them and thank God that life has not made us what they are. Instead of heaping condemnation and revenge upon our enemies, let’s give them our understanding, our sympathy, our help, our forgiveness, and our prayers.