why has child molestation become such a central issue over the last few decades?
Narkissos, it's only been within the past few decades that child molestation, incest and rape have lost their "taboo/in bad taste-to-talk-about-it" distinction in society. And the more cases are brought to light the greater chance that more will be discovered. I'm afraid that they've only touched the "tip of the iceberg" where these heinous activities are concerned.
what I don't understand is how your two older children were molested by the same man that molested you. Surely you didn't leave your boys alone with this creep. How in god's name did he get access to do this to them?
Mary, I understand where you're coming from......now. It would have been fortuitous for my children had I been as enlightened regarding this subject 30 yrs ago, as we are now. The problem was that the ones who all did this to me had me convinced that there was something, some flaw in me that caused them to do those things to me. I never ever realized that my stepfather would molest my older son and my daughter and force them to copulate (my daughter was 10, my older son was 12) so that he could watch. I thought my daughter was safe, since her brother was with her when she was visiting them. I didn't realize my stepfather was so f*ckin' evil. Mean and a domineering control freak, yes, but not evil enough to force a brother to rape his sister. It broke my heart for them, which is why I wanted to commit such mayhem against him. I hated myself for being so STUPID and naive where my stepfather was concerned!!
I didn't even realize until 20 yrs after I left home that the time my step-uncle sent me out to his car when I was just 12 yo to look at a comic book (they knew I loved comic books) in a plain brown wrapper during a family BBQ, but told me I was on my own and I couldn't tell anyone that he'd sent me out there......he was setting me up to be discovered by his wife, my aunt. I wasn't out there 5 mins. until my aunt (his wife) came outside looking for me and discovered me with the comic book. Do you honestly believe that it was a coincidence that my aunt came looking for me 5 mins. after I got out there? I don't. I think my uncle, sorry asshole that he was, sent her out there to find me. This was in the 50's. Can you imagine the ripple that went through the whole family over that discovery? Yessiree. It was CYA time for my stepfather and uncle.....and anyone else who cared to take a poke at me. My reputation and credibility within that large family was totally annihilated from that point on. None of them would ever respect or trust me again. Yeah. It didn't hit me until 20 yrs after the fact that it had all been a set up. Just like my stepfather convincing me that he would tell my mother that I came on to him and that she would take his side over my claims. He had me there., because my mother always took his side in matters of discipline even when he left bruises on us from his ham-hands. It was when my daughter finally told me what he'd done to them......6 yrs after the fact and 6 mos. past the (then) statute of limitations, that I began to think about what all had happened to me and how they'd insured that I would never tell anyone. Who's going to believe an obviously slutty 12 yo that sneaks into cars that don't belong to her and goes through their glove compartment (he told me where it was) and reads dirty books?
