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hazeleyes

ya my MIL is one screwed up B#$%@. One had she is buying smokes for her husband (FIL non-JW) and the other had bugging me to get my act together and get to more meetings.

Madame Quixote

Sounds impossible, HE. I think you might want to stay put for a while until things are more amenable. In the meantime, do not get pregnant again.

Why can't the baby go to daycare before 18 months? Is that a law in Canada or a personal prefererence? Is it possible to get public assistance to help you find private childcare assistance?

MinisterAmos

I'm afraid that he might hurt himself

Congrats! Not only are you an enabler, but you permit yourself to be mentally abused as well.

I'm not being mean to you, I'm just being thorough and honest. Have a {{{{{{HUG!}}}}}}!

I can get funding from the govt. when he is 18 mts....before that it's all private care and I'll pay more for that then I pay for my house a month. Don't worry can't get preg. again...I got fixed after the second one. not like we have much of a sex life anyway. as for the mental abuse...if you have ever been you know how hard it is to break the cycle, I just thought I would have some help, but i guess I have to go at it alone

mouthy

You have a pm read it & answer me

Hortensia

my dear, you need counseling and the elders aren't qualified to give it to you in any way that will help you. As others have said, apply for all the social services for which you qualify. Find other single mothers to talk with, they can give you support and ideas. Find a therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist to help you sort things out. You kids need you, so you need to be as healthy as possible.

You might talk to a local rape counseling center to find out about free or low cost counseling, you have a LOT of issues to work through.

I have found it very helpful to vent here on this website, as everyone is compassionate and helpful. Let everyone here know what steps you are taking, and how it works out.

SWALKER

What is it exactly that you want someone to do? All the elders can do is talk to you about the Bible. There isn't any provision made in the JW organization to help the needy with resources as other churches do . They just don't care. The sooner you face that fact the better. Wait until the time is right, then leave and make your own life. Plan everything in advance and you should be fine. These next few months should give you plenty of time to get everything ready. Start making friends outside the JW's so you'll have a support system when you leave. I think you'll find your life much better than what you have now.

Swalker

hazeleyes

Being a JW all my life, this is all I have ever known. I don't know anything about the "world" or depending on other people or social organizations, or looking for help outside the cong. I have started seeing a psychiatrist, and that is helping a bit but i only just started that. You have to understand that this is all new to me, i thought I would have this perfect little life and marry an elder and live forever in paradise. Life isn't like that so i have to get my mind around that, as well as deal with all this other crap.

Sunspot

I can't offer much more than emotional support and hugs. Not being from Canada, I can't give you any advice on who to see or where to go for help or what agencies are even available TO help you. (sorry) But there are a few folks here that ARE from Canada and will be able to share their thoughts with you. Mouthy is the greatest person and can be a comfort to you. I wish I could be more helpful...,

hugs,

Annie

SWALKER

Being a JW all my life, this is all I have ever known.

Been there, done that! It will take you some time to adjust your thinking and getting professional help is great! (I did, too!) One of the best things I learned was to see things as they are, not as I wish they were! You're caught in a bad situation right now and you need to work hard to change that so you and your kids will have a better life. We all wish the best for you! Keep posting here and it will help you when you need to vent.

Swalker

So I don't know where to start, so here is my story........

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