by bluesapphire 91 Replies latest jw friends
Sooooo,
Please measure what your motivation
is before going through with this.
Recall, just recently some kid got up one
morning and decided to "get rid" of 32
students.
You think the kid will grow up and shoot me down because I told on his mama?
I think the kid will grow up and shoot his mama because she was a fliggin' piece of crap who is robbing him of his entire childhood!
You maybe right bluesapphire, but then
again you maybe wrong.
Anyway, I pointed it out because it is a reality.
If you choose to scoff or ignore this perspective
that is the decision you make.
However, the same way you want to destroy
a family, that child's feelings maybe the
same toward you down the line.
... Just a different perspective on matters.
Respectfully,
The Wanderer
Hey Blue,
Sometimes, it is fair to seek justice with a little annonymous note to the elders, her husband, and some fellow pioneer sisters to work some wonders ... but, though very tempting ... better to mind your own business. Yet, I fully sympthize with your juicy temptation.
Jim Whitney
I believe you as you have posted for awhile, but you are really stretching it.
How could I have forgotten this for so long????There was another incident with another man! A worldly man!
On another occasion, while sipping coolers by my pool after my study, she told me she had gone out with some guy she met and ... you guessed it ... she engaged in porneia with him too.
I would question the entire thread, but I am sure you tell the truth. She knows that you know this, or
were the coolers piling up? If she knows what you know about the worldly man, why encourage treating
you badly? She should have just stayed out of it all.
The kid won't come and shoot you one day, but you won't cure a suicidal friend with this information,
either.
Follow your head and your heart. Tough call.
youre right it is unbelievable. but she is so arrogant and she doesnt know this side of me. the side of me she knows was too weak minded to ever cross her. bottom line is she thinks she got away with it.
I stand by "Follow your head and your heart."
IMO, I would try to reach the guy into confessing to this. It's what JW's are supposed to do.
Next, I would try to reach my sister with the information. It won't just be the wonderful result you
hope for, though. She might shrug it off, or shun you and her, or turn her in, or whatever.
Lastly, if the guy doesn't go forward, I would not bother going to her. She won't listen. I'd
probably get her in trouble somehow.
Yes, I agree with the poster that this could wreak havoc on the lives of the husband and child of this woman, but did she care that she may have done this to others? She is the one that wishes to live by the codes of shunning that the WTS serves up. She is willing to do this to others. She is willing to continue pioneering without a thought to the lives of others.
If she wants to live by the shunning/turn in everyone policy, then she should not be hypocritical. If it's good enough for everyone else to adhere to, it's good enough for her, too.
She obviously wants to be viewed as more righteous than everyone else. Other lesser ones can be shunned, but not her.
The elders who made my teen daughter read a scripture that she was filth in God's eyes and would burn in the fire with the devil and his angels, and called her a liar because she would not confess to fornication, after they admitted that there were no witnesses and no accusations of such a thing have families. I do not care about the impact to their families if I could dig up any dirt on these @#$%$ and get them df'd I would in a minute. They are self-righteous $h*&^s and I would like for everyone to know what kind of people they really are!!!!
gossip is destructive. Im sorry i clicked here.
mind your own biznax BlueSaph.
Turning her in might not get her in much trouble - if she is a sex addict they don't usually learn to control it without lots of therapy. She might have gotten together with some of the elders over the years who would now work to sweep it under the rug. Also as much as we'd all like to see her get nailed, it's usually best to avoid any interaction with or about people like her who might enjoy getting revenge. Ain't worth it. However your friend needs serious attention. If you even slightly suspect suicidal tendencies, act now. flipper
I kinda agree with the others who have said ... 'mind your own business'.
Let's say that you went up to her and said, "Hey! I remember you telling me about committing pornea years ago with xxx."
She might say, "Oh yeah. I remember that. I turned myself in to the elders and was privately reproved for it." (Whether she did or not is another issue.)
Then what? You got nuthin - and she will continue - perhaps with a vengence now - to encourage your sister to shun you - plus - possibly make your life miserable in other ways.
Leave it be. Try to help the fella who is feeling bad about doing things in his past... but don't dig up bones that have been buried a long time.
Regards,
Jim TX
