Am I bored with JWD? Or have I outgrown it?

by AK - Jeff 35 Replies latest social relationships

  • AK - Jeff
    AK - Jeff

    This is not one of those 'Farewell' threads, 'Gotta' Go' threads, or 'Bye' threads. Because I know myself well enough to say that I would not honor my own exit - I would soon be back,

    But in all honesty, I am finding my desire to be on this forum less and less compelling. I never open threads that will be controversial [well, I can't say never, but rarely]. I don't like fluff threads. Doctrinal arguments are far better handled by those who have apparently educated themselves just to make them, are often so linguistical in nature that I get bogged down, and feel unable to add anything of substance.

    I still enjoy the 'I'm new here' threads. And the particular threads that deal with latest JW stupidity and statistics. And of course certain posters are more captivating than others and I tend to open those threads. Some people on this board I consider my friends, and so those threads I also look at when I see them.

    But, by and large, I feel more 'addicted' than I do desirous of either participation or observation here nowadays. I compare it to the habit of walking up to the refrigerator, opening the door, realizing that I am not hungry anyway, closing the door and walking away. Only to repeat the process a few minutes or hours later.

    Still - there is something that draws me. The commonality of the posters of course. We have all survived the Jw experience. I feel tremendous love and respect for many here. I have grown, smashed the box that contained me, and dared to think. Most of that was encouraged from participation here. And that I cannot ever forget the value that such has added to my life. Three years ago I judged everyone. I detested those in Religion, homosexuals, patriots, materialists, those practicing occult, those who denied God, those who believed he was Triune in nature, Methodists, Protestant, and Catholics. In short, the only good people were the Jw's, all others were evil and should get ready to meet their end [which I believed was imminent]. Now I accept most everyone, or at least I have no prejudice against the things they believe. I would be happy to sit and have a beer with any of them. I have now come full circle and would even allow Jw's to join us - if they could behave. lol

    I also healed here, leaving nearly 40 years of mind control behind, and finding a way to cope with the realization that everything I had put my confidence in was just cavernous emptiness.

    So what is a fellow to do? I cannot leave those that have been so important to me - nor do I really want to leave. I have cut back, sort of like the heroin addict cuts back to methadone. But the addiction remains.

    I love you all. I don't think I am going anywhere though. Just wanted to ramble this morning I guess.

    Jeff

  • JH
    JH

    With the nice weather that will set in shortly, I'll be outside more, enjoying life, like I do each summer.

    I'm here for the friends more than the topics right now, unlike when I started posting 35 years ago....

  • trevor
    trevor

    AK- Jeff

    You are suffering from 'empty fridge syndrome.'

    Stack the fridge with beer and this site will appear much more interesting to you...

  • DJK
    DJK

    I know what you mean AK. I've been thinking on that line for a while myself.

  • mouthy
    mouthy

    Some people on this board I consider my friends, and so those threads I also look at when I see them. Oh you scared me. Your one of my favorites.... Dont mind you slowing down but never quit.
    Now I will have to check my lists to see if you looked at mine I shall cry if your were not a visitor to it

    Stay away from the fridge tho darling, that is how I got THIS size ((((HUGS))))

  • ninja
    ninja

    Ah Jeffity....some days are better than others mate...it's like anything ...once you get used to it the euphoria wears off a tad...you will level out again no doubt....I too would miss your posts if you scarpered...stay around...p.s if you're buying beers ...mines a guinness ...cheers....da ninja....heres a wee joke to cheer you up.....George Dubya dies and obviously goes to hell...The Devil tells the president he will stay in one of three rooms, allowing the present occupant to be set free.... The first door opens and Richard Nixon is having pots of boiling hot oil poured over his naked body... "Nope, don't fancy that," says Bush. Inside the second room, Tony Blair is having his wedding tackle tightly squeezed by a rusty industrial vice... "No way," says Bush, "let's see the third room."... The door opens and Bill Clinton is sat at a desk with a glass of champagne in his hand, while Monica Lewinsky is on her hands and knees doing what Monica does best.... "Now that's more like it," says Bush. "I'll go for room three."... The Devil nods his head and says: "Okay, Monica, you're free to go ..."

  • Mary
    Mary
    AK-Jeff said: I never open threads that will be controversial [well, I can't say never, but rarely]. I don't like fluff threads. Doctrinal arguments are far better handled by those who have apparently educated themselves just to make them, are often so linguistical in nature that I get bogged down, and feel unable to add anything of substance.

    Jeff, Jeff, Jeff......what are we to do with thee? You contribute LOTS to this forum, and you're obviously an intelligent guy......I many on here might feel overwhelmed by reading the postings of the educated on here---I certainly do. Hell, I sometimes have to read Leolaia and Narkisos' postings 2 or 3 times to understand what they're saying as they're so far beyond me it's not even funny. Ah, the curse of being educated.

    Still, everyone's got something good to contribute and you're no exception. Now wake up damn it and post something funny on my thread: http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/133651/1.ashx

    You'll feel much better when you do.

  • Black Man
    Black Man

    Beautifully written portrait of your growth, Jeff. I think all of us are striving to get to where you are. When you reach the point where you're able to see your growth and move on from your past, 'tis a wonderful thing................

  • juni
    juni

    Good morning Jeff!

    I can relate to what you said. I feel the same way. Though I do like to post on some "fluff" threads. Just silly stuff....

    I also visit here to stay "in touch" w/different friends. But I am past feeling the "grip" that the JW religion had on me. It has taken a long time and this forum was very helpful to be able to heal.

    So many newbies posting now. It's like a new "generation" arising to find answers to their long held in questions, validation of their feelings and hopefully solace.

    Peace to you and your family. Juni

  • purplesofa
    purplesofa

    I agree with Black Mans post.......

    congrats!

    and thanks for hanging around and posting when you can.

    purps

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