Am I bored with JWD? Or have I outgrown it?

by AK - Jeff 35 Replies latest social relationships

  • Little Drummer Boy
    Little Drummer Boy

    Hey Jeff, it could have been me starting this thread. I feel very much the same way.

    I really needed and wanted all kinds of support and information when I DA'd, but now, I feel I just want to move on. I really, really enjoy reading posts from many of the people here, but this place is a constant reminder of where I've been in life - not where I'm going. How do we balance being here for and helping those who have just left or are leaving the borg against our own personal growth? That is a tricky one to me. There is a need to help those who need it, but the torch should be passed at some point. I don't want to be the guy who "checks up on the jws" in five years, or heaven forbid ten or 15 years from now. Good grief, we need to put it behind us at some point and take control of our lives and actually live for a change. I can now go days without even thinking about jws. That's what I want. WHY would I, as one poster is doing, 15 years from leaving the borg, want to be reminded constantly of the cult? That last comment is sure to piss off some people, and it isn't meant that way. Everybody's experience with the jws was different amd although I was in for a very long time, I don't have family still in. There isn't anything or anyone holding me to the jws. For those with family in it would be different.

    Like you, I have been feeling that the board is more like an addiction than something that is actually helping me at the moment. I realized that, although I really like the folks here, it is mostly all just cyber relationships (apostafests and the assorted personal meetups not withstanding). I decided that I really needed to put forth the effort to make some actual, real life, real world friends that I could spend time with instead of fretting over how fast I could keep up with the dang active topics button so I wouldn't miss a thread here. There is now a group of us guys from school that - gasp - ya know, go grab lunch and stuff. The kind of friends we didn't have in the borg (ie, they aren't fake). And it has been great. Other than my wife I havn't had a real friend in 14 years or so until recently.

    So ya, as to your thread title, I don't think you're bored. I think you are progressing in a good and positive way by not needing jwd as much.

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    I know the feeling Jeff. I am still posting a bunch of times each day, but it is a
    going-thru-the-motion kind of deal. I force myself to participate in fluff just to
    make each visit worthwhile. I will probably soon start limiting myself to
    every other day, then every third. I imagine starting this in the summer.

    I am happy that the fluff is here. I am happy that there are so many newbies.
    Blondie says she posts to help others. I try to do the same.

    There's nothing wrong with straying from JWD and branching out to other
    interests. It's a good sign. Get out there, Jeff, enjoy the other things in life.

  • ninja
    ninja

    hey akitty jeffity...there's always the option of joining another cult.....leaving then posting on their apostate forum....well thats what I'm aiming for...I wanna be a cult groupie

  • AK - Jeff
    AK - Jeff

    Thanx ya'll [as we used to say in Texas].

    It is good to see that many have come to the same fork in the road. As summer progresses I will be spending less time here. Today it was flower gardening and planting a tree - perhaps this evening it will be a pleasant round of golf [another addiction]. This morning was a wonderful time - in my local coffee haunt we had a rather heated [at times] discussion about political agenda's, danger from terrorists, and the potential loss of freedom insidiously due to 9-11. At the end, we all hugged and confirmed that differing opinions and ideas was a positive toward continued freedom in this great land. That was refreshing. How great to find that all minds are not in lock-step. I am always amazed by this - though I have had many discussions of that nature since leaving the bOrg. Let Freedom Ring.

    I shall now go check on tee-time.

    Jeff

  • sass_my_frass
    sass_my_frass

    I after a while that the same topics come up; I haven't really seen anything new here for a while in terms of info. But I stay for the same thing; the commonality. Having the info was liberating, but the lifestyle change is the biggest I've ever faced, and I just love to know that I'm not the only person going through it. I'm glad you're not going because I like what you write. It's also good that you're realistic enough to know that you're not going to walk away and never come back. I don't get it when people do that.

  • Madame Quixote
    Madame Quixote

    Same here, AK - Jeff. I'm glad I get bored with it sometimes. It forces me to go out and walk on the beach, go see a movie, clean my apartment, etc. It is an addiction of sorts, luckily not of the physical body.

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