At what point have you crossed the "cheating" line? (page 2)

Hortensia

I agree with Tara, if you can't tell your spouse/partner about it because that person would respond with pain and a sense of betrayal, then it's cheating. However, having friends of the opposite sex isn't cheating, lunch with coworkers isn't cheating, going out with a mixed group of folks isn't cheating, esp. if the spouse is invited and chooses not to go along.

RichieRich

So this ended a recent relationship for me, so I can speak from experience.

This is 2007. People have close friends of the opposite sex who they aren't romantically involved with.

My girlfriend had several male friends who she would hang out with without me being present, and I have many female friends, who when I see, I greet with a kiss (on the cheek).

I work as a body piercer, which requires me to do some pretty down and dirty genitalia touching and talking, but she is attending massage school, which requires her to give a lot of guys the rub down. We both agreed that made us even. Truth be told, I still didn't like her giving massages, and she still didn't like me touching lady parts.

Anywho, the opposite sex friend thing is what broke us up. I decided to surprise her one night, and she was sitting on the couch with her head in her friend's lap- and this guy isn't like a really old friend either... Not cool. I confronted her about it, and she flipped.

One of us was in the wrong I guess, but I considered it cheating due to the scenario- in the dark, alone, and with that particular guy.

Stealth453

I'm with you Richie....I would have shat a fragmentation grenade.

In my opinion, if I don't want it done to/against me, I won't do it to/against my wife.

lisavegas420

I'm going to write this first then go back and see what everyone else said.

I think cheating is doing anything that you would try to keep your spouse from finding out about.

My husband said when the first nipple appeared...but I think is was trying to be funny.

lisa

NotaNess

Having lunch with a coworker CAN be cheating.

Cheating also includes wanting something like conversation, flirty sexual talk, flirting, and the consistent company of another...that you aren't getting out of your spouse. You're doing that stuff with someone else, even though it's not physical (yet).

Could be a form of cheating, that's all.

free2beme

Having lunch with a coworker CAN be cheating.

I think it can be a prelude to cheating. In that it can build up a relationship or feelings, if you only ate with that person each day and at the same time spent more hours with them during the week, then you wife. As you work 40+ hours a week with them. Happened to a friend, he sleep with the woman, now divorcing.

looking_glass

It is all about honesty and how one wants to be treated and how one treats another with respect. If I respect you, I would not want to do anything that could hurt you then I behave in a manner that is appropriate for our relationship.

I knew a dude that thought it was ok to chat on line w/ chicks. Even though he had been dating a girl for 6 months and they were pretty serious, he had to get his kicks out of pretending that he would hook up w/ chicks on-line. I knew his GF would not be cool w/ that if she knew and even asked him about it. He also knew that she would not be cool about it, so he hid what he was doing. He was cheating in his own way. To me, it was just a matter of time b/4 some chick was too much for him to handle and he would follow thru w/ his on-line antics.

Kudra

I agree with the "doing something you would not want your significant other to know about".

If you have to sneak, it's bad news.

RichieRich

If you wouldn't tell them to their face, then its cheating. plain and simple.

I think this changes from generation to generation though...

cyrus

women are the biggest cheats why 1)a woman lies better than man 2)a woman will have another mans baby and let their partner raise it without tellking 3)a woman will cheat on her man and still it will be his fault ,you werent showing me attention ,we dont talk ,you dont show your feelings.she will make her man feel guilty even tho it is her f...ing another man 4)when a man cheats it is usually just a f..k when a woman cheats its usually emotion as well as sex

At what point have you crossed the "cheating" line?

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