Why do people hide on this site?

by Adolfius 45 Replies latest jw friends

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  Highlander

  I think it's worth repeating some of the following powerful comments that were made on this thread:

  erandir said:

  If I were to DA myself or be DF'ed, they would shun both of us because they felt they had to...or at the least, just me. But her social life would still go down the tube. She's talked of committing suicide if anything like that happens. She's going through depression right now...I coincidentally am coming out of mine. (I'm convinced a lot of it had to do with being a witness.)

  For a person to be in such a state that they would consider suicide to be the best alternative, shows there is something very, very, wrong with this religion.

  Mouthy said:

  If all your family are JW & you "come out" it is like waking up one day & EVERY ONE in the family is dead....Thats why folks are afraid of D/F

  You are absolutely correct. It is rare in real life for a person to lose their entire family in a car accident or plane crash. However with the j-dubs, they cause a 'plane crash' to occur on a daily if not hourly basis due to their disgusting shunning doctrine.

  Warlock said:

  I left Catholicism for the WT. My family didn't like it, BUT THEY NEVER SHUNNED ME. It was actually ME that shunned THEM.

  So much for that idea of j-dubs building strong family units and being the happiest, loving people on earth.
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  delilah

  I know of people who have done the "fade" thing because they "want to keep the peace". They don't want the hassle of elders calling at the house, or the stigma of being disfellowshipped etc. Why not just tell them you're leaving and they're not to come to your house, and you don't care about their punishments?

  In my case, I don't care about keeping the peace, I was Df'd before. I know how it feels, like you are the lowest of all pond scum, a criminal. The WT will NEVER have that kind of power over me again. That is the biggest reason why I faded. I spent far too many years, being made to feel like I was not good enough and then to be df'd??......they will not do that to me again.

  As far as not wanting the elders visiting me....they know better. My husband has given them a stern warning not to bother or there would be trouble.

  The other reason is, that I have a very dear friend here, whose identity could be revealed by lurking elders, and I do not want to cause her any grief.
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  GentlyFeral

  Adolfius,

  Yet in the borg, people will go completely against their natural feelings, and almost pretend a family member never existed just because they have what amounts to a simple difference of opinion. How does that work? How can the borg exercise such control?

  jgnat said it most succinctly:

  Fear.

  Fear that they, too, will be shunned and disfellowshipped in their turn. And to be DF'd means that your salvation, your place in the Paradise Earth™ has been snatched away from you.

  You were raised in it and it didn't take – my own children are the same way, thank god :) – so perhaps you never went through the stage adult converts go through, where all other sources of hope and reason are systematically discredited.

  gently feral
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  Cheetos

  dawg

  You won't ever see me hide from the foolish bastards at the WT... I used not to say much because I didn't want to hurt my family, but there actually the ones hurting me.. the photo on this site is my photo... I'm Charles Howard Huff from Athens, Georgia... The WTBTS can kiss my dirty ass. How's that?

  dawg" I share your feelings completly, I like the picture too.

  Hello brothers and sisters in Ogden, Utah and Brigham City, Utah and Roy City, Utah and Clearfield, Utah. Hello Dave and Joe G, and Bobby M, and Neil M, Robin M in RockSprings WY and Rick M, in Ogden Utah area. I wear a beard and they would not give me the time of day most of these guys and I have known them all my life.

  When I was at deaths door from a head injury from a fall, my own brother in law who is an elder in my area told my family (mother and aunt and sisters they should not pray for me, because of my not meeting his expectations. I don't hate any Jehovah's Witness, but you should not take them seriously as if your life depended on it, because some of them really are screwed up personality wise and then you take those same people and make an elder out of them and have them counseling people in some important way and you will have trouble.

  So I say hey, its not all that bad to have a spine and show your face.

  Shane Draney, Ogden, Utah

  Hootie Hoo
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  avengers

  I hide behind my pussycat 'cause I'm a chicken.

  I really don't care who sees me, discovers me or what. I just have to find a good picture of me so that the whole JWD community doesn't get the shock of their lives when they see my pic, and everyone leaves here is gonna blame me.

  lol.

  Andy
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  Cheetos

  Nice Pic Andy, I like your Puss too.