Quandry,
Your daughter is very very fortunate to have parents who truly know the meaning of "unconditional love". A large question for debate is simply: how is it that religious organizations are able to successfully persuade parents to subvert their natural maternal / paternal instincts toward their children. When I read statements like yours I feel elated on one hand to know that some parents were strong enough to see through it, to not abandon their child. On the other hand it hurts me to know that my parents do not feel as strongly about me as you do about your daughter. Thank you for posting this, and feel free to get in touch with me directly. Ruby.
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Observador,
Not having other immediate xjw's to speak with, and having carried this weight for over a decade (just like many others on this forum) I can't really tell you how much supportive statements like yours mean to me right now. I was already beyond motivated, chomping at the bit, practically rabid to put this production together for my own personal reasons. As I receive supportive statements like yours I feel overwhelmed with motivation for the sake of others. It is so wonderful to be reminded that I am not alone, that I am NOT CRAZY, and with enough work I might be able to help others through this -- ON BOTH SIDES. After what I have been through, that is literally all that I want from this life. Thank you. Ruby. -
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Jgnat,
It is amazing, isn't it - how the onus is placed entirely upon the individual who is disfellowshipped / disassociated? The language that is used consistently removes the action away from the organization and places it on the individual.
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Monophonic,
Thank you so much for your support. Re: filmmaking - as I responded to Paralipomenon, I am lucky to have friends who work in the industry, and am currently picking up a minor in film studies, considering an MFA after the film is completed. Regardless, it is impossible not to make mistakes, and I would love to hear more about yours. The budget is, of course, of huge concern to me. I am fortunate to have friends who have received substantial grant money in the past, who have aided me in pulling together a creative treatment / proposal as well as to write grant proposals. I do have a trained cinematographer on board. My current concern is finding the right producer for my film. No matter what happens - it will go forward.
Would love to hear more from you. If you feel comfortable doing so - please contact me directly at [email protected] so that you can share some of your insight. I truly appreciate your support. Thank you, Ruby. -
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Hubert,
Thank you very much. Suicide is a major issue I need to cover. It sounds horribly macabre but with all the right intentions at heart, I need to information, resources regarding this. I need specific names and locations. I will be dedicating this film to them. This is difficult of course because even if an individual were to commit suicide after being DF'd (can you imagine how many have?), and even if this individual were to lay it out in a letter it is not as though the parents would trumpet the fact in front of the media. This is a difficult one. Please keep in touch.
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Penny2,
This is something I worry about all of the time. I worry about my parents who have never educated themselves because of the WTS, who work at low paying menial jobs just to get by until Armageddon. When the Great Tribulation doesn't arrive and they are too old to work -- who is going to look after them? Will I be able to visit them on their death beds only to be sent away / rebuked? I am torn on this issue, and I picture the scenario you described above happening to me in the future. Thank you Penny2, Ruby. -
ButtLight
What a great idea!
I was df'd at 18 for fornication........even though I was repentant. I went in, tears pouring down my face and confessed. They had a jc meeting, and I feel they df'd me more for the fact that the I was associating with my Mother and Sister who were df'd. They blamed what I did, on the fact I went against the Society, and didnt stay away from bad association. There is nothing worse then being in a huge, loving family, and have them ripped away from you in one night of announcements!
I was reinstated years later......but only went for six months. I was inactive for 15 years, and got a knock on the door. I agreed to study, but it only took 1 1/2 weeks for them to pull me in the back room for another jc, and df me again for my "worldly" lifestyle. Even though I hadnt claimed to be a witness for 15 years............hog wash!
Good luck to you!
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poppers
I hope you keep JWD up-to-date on your progress and allow people here to cheer you on. It is amazing to watch people respond to your request, as I knew they would. Maybe you could start a blog so we all could check in on you.
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Hi Poppers,
Of course I will keep the forum updated!!! I will have the website up shortly and will have a page where supporters (and nay-sayers) can leave their comments. I also plan to have a banner/link directly to Forum if not also directly to this particular link. This will be important for the film -- I need distributors and potential producers to see how much support there is behind a film like this, to understand how widespread this issue is.
I am going to try to also take a more active part in the daily discussions, but as a newbie my first kneejerk reaction is simply to indulge myself by revealing excerpts from my own little sob story. It is really so tempting...
R.
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Poppers - also the blog is a good idea. Perhaps I can incorporate that into my new webpage...good idea. I am somewhat concerned about WTS surveillance to be honest. I'm sure, for example that they've already been alerted to this one particular thread. I would hate to have any potential filming opportunities / interviews sabotaged -- so I would need to be careful, I think. r.