My Grandpa Died Sunday

by noni1974 36 Replies latest jw friends

  • noni1974
    noni1974

    Thanks everyone who has replied so far.I was an emotional wreck Monday and it's been getting better slowly since.But tonight I was again feeling the need for comfort.I'm feeling overly emotional and upset.I keep having dreams of my Grandpa struggling for breath.It scares me and freaks me out to hear this sound in my dreams.I wake up sweating and scared with no one to talk to or hug.

    I know it's a process with grief and it will take time but I've never in my life felt like this with another human that died.I've always been able to just say "ok life goes on" and be done with it.That probally sounds really cold to most of you but I've always bottled my feelings up and just put them on a shelf and never looked at them again.I've been working on this expressing my feelings and letting them out.I think this thread is progress because I can admit without fear that I have feelings and I'm upset and hurting and I need comfort from others.

    I can't really talk to my Mom about my own emotional needs at the moment because she lost her father.I'm trying to be there for her and I've been putting my own feelings on the back burner.But tonight I didn't go to work and I decided to have a beer or two and it seems to have brought my feelings up.Anyway thanks for listening.

  • bikerchic
    bikerchic

    (((((Noni)))))

    I'm so sorry for your loss!

  • nicolaou
    nicolaou

    Hi Noni

    So sorry to read of your loss, your Grandpa sounds like a lovely man. Although I'm about ten years older than you I've not yet lost anyone who really means anything to me (I barely knew my grandparents). I guess what I'm trying to say is that in one way you are very, very lucky. You had a relationship with your Grandpa worth mourning and worth sharing. No doubt you will hold onto those special memories for the rest of your life.

    I lost my Grandfather.I lost someone who I had alot of respect for all of my life

    Lots of love,

    Nic'

  • sweetums
    sweetums

    Noni, I am so very sorry for the loss of you grandfather. I can tell that you loved him very much. If it's any comfort to you, the one memory you can hold close to you heart and the one that I find so endearing is him asking you for a hug, him telling you he was collecting them. How sweet is that? He knew you loved him, rest assured... Peace to you and your family!

  • R.F.
    R.F.

    I'm so sorry for your loss noni!

    I will pray that you receive the strength needed to cope with this.

    So many deaths lately mentioned here on JWD.

    R.F.

  • noni1974
    noni1974

    You know what really pisses me off is that my Grandpa was a JW his whole life.He was second generation (I was 4th generation).I kept hearing people say he had a good linage to pass down.Of course this wasn't said to me but to my cousins who are MS.Like I'm not a good person.Like I'm the trash of the earth.

    His linage is as much mine as anyone of my cousins or anyone else.I felt like I wasn't even in the same room with the Elder who said that.Funny thing was he looked pointedly at me when he said it.I wonder if he did the on purpuse or unconscienly??

    PS Sorry for the spelling I'm on yahoo because firefox won't let me do paragraphs and I have spell check on firefox.And I'm working on my second beer and my I don't know how many shots.LOL I'm in the mood to drink.

  • Es
    Es

    My utmost condolences, I so know how you feel, I too watched my grandfather die, something Im not sure I would do again if I had too.

    I hope they have the decency at least to offer there condolences to you.

    big hugs

    es

  • freedomloverr
    freedomloverr

    (((((NONI)))))

    I'm so glad you turned here when you needed some lovin' and support!

    I lost my grandfather also years ago, and it sounds like a very similar situation. It is very painful. I'm so grateful for you that you got to be with him when he passed. That was an honor in my opinion. Being present when a life enters or leaves this world is an honor.

    just take it day to day and let your present emotions just be what they are at that moment. cry when you need to, scream at the injustice of death, or smile when you think of your grandpa and his unique personality.....

    thinking about you today.

  • OnTheWayOut
    OnTheWayOut

    I have recently lost my last grandparent, and the folks here were very kind and understanding.
    Of course you should be comforted by family, and its a shame what WTS does to them to
    prevent this.

    Strength and positive thoughts to you. May your reflections and thoughts give you good memories.

  • Junction-Guy
    Junction-Guy

    So sorry to hear of this, you have my condolences.



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