Possible? Definitely. While a different type of love, when you have multiple children you love them all equally (or you should) I can't see how this wouldn't expand to multiple partners as well. You can love multiple people for different reasons.
But would you let yourself fall in love with another, knowing your partner would not feel comfortable or approve?
Not all things possible need to be acted out.
There was an article in McLean's recently that said that polygamy was inadvertently legalized in Canada. My wife and I were musing about a second wife. She said flat out no. She said that she wouldn't mind me having a mistress, but a second wife would be out of the question. Then she started to think about all the things she could make a second wife do, cooking, cleaning, looking after the kids, shopping and started to see the appeal. I informed here that she was more interested in a slave which she thought would be a great idea.
Neither of us are seriously looking for additional spouses, but it was fun to explore the idea and see what the issues, motivation and complications would be.
Can/Should someone be in love with more than one person?
by AK - Jeff 30 Replies latest social relationships
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Paralipomenon
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eclipse
but a second wife would be out of the question. Then she started to think about all the things she could make a second wife do, cooking, cleaning, looking after the kids, shopping and started to see the appeal. I informed here that she was more interested in a slave which she thought would be a great idea.
I had a hearty laugh over that one, Para!
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gabriella
While it is definitely possible to fall in love with two people, I don't think that you can love them each the same and as strongly. Eventually, a decision has to be made and one love will prove stronger in the end. I think that is the painful part. It happened to me once that I began to really care about two guys at the same time, not in the same way. One was sincere, dependable and had many good family and marriage qualities. I knew I could have a future with him. The other was very spontaneous, passionate and unpredictable, but I loved his independence and freedom. I am happily married to the sincere, dependable one. It was painful for a while, though, and I would never knowingly put myself in that position again. I don't recommend it, cuz whatever your decision is in the end, you will end up loosing someone that you love,,
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Smiles_Smiles
Love more then 1 person ... yes
Be committed to more then 1 person ... no, not so much
(that's if committment is define with an exclusivity clause)
And in this equation love does not necessarily equal committment.
Smiles
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Atpeaceatlast
I don't think it's about if you should or shouldn't when it comes to the matters of the heart, but I will always love the JW boy I left behind, although I will never return to him in an "Eros" or marital arrangement. My husband and I love each other on a day-to-day basis, and I would never have an affair with the JW boy if are paths ever crossed again. For me, it's not about if I love one, I can't love another, and also it's not about which one is better and the other inferior. It doesn't work that way for me, at least. Each love you come across in this life is different; The JW boy is the first love, the first true heartbreak; the memory of young love blooming furiously and then betrayedl due to the Watchtower's antics. Years later, I met my husband at a time I was ready to love again after healing. My husband is my friend and my family, and I couldn't imagine my life without him in it. I guess love can be complicated, but for some, a heart is something that truly has a mind of it's own.
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Narkissos
At least it makes for great novels or movie scripts -- Lubitsch's Design for Living on a comical tone, Truffaut's Jules et Jim in more tragic fashion, for instance (btw the latter is based on a true story, if that means anything). Both pointing to the sentimental evidence and practical impossibility...
Speaking of novels, Atpeaceatlast's moving post reminds me of Joyce's Dubliners where an aging man suddenly finds out about his wife's first and absolute love, who had died, because a piano tune brings it up...
Jacques Derrida used to ask people he met for the first time, "what's your novel?"
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AK - Jeff
Atpeaceatlast - That was a moving story. I have known of others with similar, the basis for this topic in fact.
Don McLean said ' A long long time ago, I can still remember..... ' How true that can ring in this life, huh.
Thanx for sharing that.
Jeff
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goaly host
Love more then 1 person ... yes Be committed to more then 1 person ... no, not so much (that's if committment is define with an exclusivity clause) And in this equation love does not necessarily equal committment. Smiles Excellent response. I agree I am sad to say.
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goaly host
Love more then 1 person ... yes Be committed to more then 1 person ... no, not so much (that's if committment is define with an exclusivity clause) And in this equation love does not necessarily equal committment. Smiles Excellent response. I agree I am sad to say.
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Nellie
I was thinking about when the "indoctrination" of only one special person begins, but I started thinking about my kids and how they interact with others. Typically, when they are with a friend, they don't want to share that friend with anyone else. I see it all the time. Yesterday, I was taking my daughter to the park and I told her to invite a friend, then I asked her if she wanted to invite another friend. She didn't want to . . . three's a crowd in her book. My boys are the same way.