Hi, welcome!
Another problem I have is the clear distinction between what the bible actually says, what the FDS write
This is the key! For years (your whole life?) you have been trained to believe that what the Bible says and what the FDS says it says - is the same thing! The jw-terminology is itself constructed in this way, to obscure the difference between the Bible (the book) and the WTS` interpretations of this book! How many times haven`t you used the phrase "the Bible clearly teaches that..." (followed by some jw-doctrine), "the Bible warns us against" (followed by jw-doctrine), etc.
Congratulations. You have understood the most important distinction necessary to break free from your mental hell (I was raised in it too): You now know that the Bible and the WTS` interpretations of the Bible, are not the same thing. Welcome to freedom!