by faundy 57 Replies latest jw friends
DA. Have it over and done with. This idiot god elder wont let it rest. They'll attempt to come after you.
If you are truely happy with who you are, and with the friendships you are now forging out in the real world, then get it over and done with and CUT ALL TIES.
Blessed be; wishing you peace and happiness
Shell
Here's the link to Confession's post called "That Voice...My Story"
It's a great read.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/96377/1.ashx
As for what shell69 said, the nice thing about your situation, Faundy, is that it sounds like it really doesn't make that much difference what you do. Lay low or send a DA letter. Whatever sounds best for YOU. Either way, your world isn't going to be rocked. That's great. And unusual.
Open Mind
unless you like the drama, just tell the elder to take a hike if he manages to get in touch with you. Then take your girl friend out to dinner and indulge in PDAs if you want. Sex isn't a crime in itself - the crime is things like rape and molesting children. What consenting adults do is no one's business.
My poor gay sister! It's gonna be okay- I agree with the others, don't put yourself through that. I remember when I was asked to have a talk with the Elders about my "gay tendacies/inclinations/...faggotiness?" and I was scared, like- "this is it-OH MY GOD!" Because you have it worked in your head what is going to happen- as if your whole world is gonna come crashing down.
But really, I think yo have more than most gays do- and hell so do I to some degree since I was never baptized and realized my feelings before I spent the next ten years denying them, destroying my loverly JW wife and kids in the process-
Your family is out, which is awesome and besides your hard-headed sister it seems as if they've dealt with or are trying to deal with it.
They know... and in my mind, being "gay" is one of those things that gets around since its soo juicy and scaaaaandolous that everybody eventually figures out in at least the three nearby halls after four or five months. Or even sooner. So if someone's seen you then chances are they ALL have seen you. You've probably been in someone's comment in the Watchtower and not even know it
You are here and that is awesome! I followed the advice of those on this board who had gone through a JC and recognize what I might have been faced with (pervy elders wanting to know my browser history!) and I did not go, nor did I contact the elder who wanted to give it to me. He was nice though- really nice guy. But I was not gonna put myself in that position and realized just because my family wanted to give him that power over us does not mean I had to as well- I didn't, in that area.
So I say don't go and when you feel comfortable, just DA yourself. I don't think anyone can tell you to do that but you and maybe you have some emotinal involvement/pain or fear you aren't ready to face. It sounds like if you were to do that then you woulnd't be able to communicate with a very close friend of yours and I def. understand why that would be a reason to just Fade. But realize that... well the relationship can only "grow" or get to a point whereas she to would be in trouble, and if she realizes that one day and doesn't go the way you want her to- out of the truth, then she may turn on you (in order to get Ms. Jehovah's approval again). So just be careful, and I'm sorry you are going through this and it isn't fair. After spending all that time struggling with your sexuality (22 years! I'm not EVEN 22!!!1one1) this is the last thing you need and you deserve to be happy with your girlfriend...
Building things.... and taking in about four or five cats or dogs. Don't lie, you know you are!
I just want to welcome you as I see you've already received plenty of good advice.
Be true to yourself and don't let the prejudices of others come in the way of happiness.
changeling
You do not owe any man or group of men ANYTHING. You owe them no explanation, no justification, NOT A THING. What you do with this situation is obviously your
business. My suggestion is to talk to no one about anything. Live your life. Be happy. They have no power over you.
Hi faundy welcome to JWD.
I would ignore them. They have not authority over you, you don't have to answer to them for anything. Since you have no family to speak of in the BORG, tell the old geezers to kiss your A$$.
just my 2c
nj
Thats bizzare, they have painted themselves in a corner. It used to be you couldnt be caught with a member of the opposite sex. Now they're saying you cant be caught with a member of the same sex.
hmmm
Who's that Thinking of Leaving?
'Cause she is hot!
