If the real truth were not so important to you, you would not be on this journey. If your heart was not one of a true seeker, you could content yourself to live the lie.
If you really do have the quest for truth as a common bond, then it should surface.
But I think the betrayl of the holy union of matrimony....to rat on you to someone who is interferring in your marriage, dashing its vows to smithereens, to usurp your authority and give your power to someone who should have no say in your private life.....well, that's just kind of hard to swallow.
If she comes out of this with you, it will have been a hard lesson learned for the both of you.
She has already failed the loyalty test. But will you give her the chance to redeem herself?
Some marriages may become stronger for the hardships faced together. But some go the opposite.
I have a family member who is cult member. Her husband was too. Neither were born-ins. One day her husband could no longer stomach the interferrence and possibly other things he knew as well. His cranky wife turned him in for something. He packed up and left. Went way far away (another state). (This was all over that stupid religion...not another woman, or another man, or money problems, or in-laws, or things "normal" people have disagreements over.) After about a year they got back together. She is still involved with the cult. He is not. She told me the marriage will never be the same. She lost her faith and trust in him. But as Jehovah "hates a divorcing" they remain together. It's been over 20 something years now. She makes a good living and does not need him for financial security. They pretty much go their separate ways. Jobs out of town, on the road, ... they don't have to be together daily. Maybe see each other every other week-end or so.
To me, it's a sad way to live. They just seem to take it in stride....living like roommates. I think the bitterness is deep but well hidden. They are polite and cordial to one another. They may even have some fairly good times when friends come for a get together. Secretly I think she has some sort of martyr complex now.
The most you can do is to try to free her. But if she does not want to be free.... there may be a time you will have to go the road alone.
I hope not. We all need a companion and helpmate. But if the prerequisites of loyalty, trust and privacy are missing...that's not a very strong relationship.
I hope you two can salvage things. But get yourself straight first. Get stronger yourself and then maybe you will have more influence.
The watchtower society undermines marriages!
