I'm attracted to an engaged JW

by B_Deserter 39 Replies latest jw friends

  • cognizant dissident
    cognizant dissident

    I don't think less of you B Deserter. Zeroday is speaking from his own pain. In actually, his life was not ruined or destroyed. What happened, saved him from a bad marrriage with a woman who never loved him. That woman getting falsely engaged to someone just to make someone else jealous was a shitty thing to do. He is better off and doesn't seem to know it! I think your situation is a little different.

    I still don't think it is a good idea though, and here's why. If you are not a JW and she is, you will have nothing in common. Her beliefs are lifestyle are all-encompassing. Chances of it working out well: slim to none. It's not like marrying a lapsed Catholic or something.

    Other reasons: you said she was engaged, but her fiance had not proposed. This is contradictory. How did she get engaged if he did not propose? If no one proposed, then she is not engaged. (I suppose she could have proposed!) Are you even clear what the situation really is here?

    What does losing weight and martial arts have to with any of this? JW's are also against martial arts, you know. Or maybe you don't.

    Finally, if a woman is interested in a man she gives him clues to let him know, so he does not have to needlessly go around making a fool of himself asking out women who are clearly not interested. Do you know what the signals are that women send out, and has she sent any of them your way?

    Cog

  • zeroday
    zeroday
    Yeah, it was wrong of her for her to lead you on like that, but she is the one that still made that decision. Deal with it, and move on.

    Deal with it when I was nothing but a piece of meat to bait the real one just as you want to don't get me wrong I have moved on and I encourage people like you to continue you think this is worth destroying other's life for your instant gratification do it but when she is old news and you are tired of the same ole same ole and are looking for new meat just think of the reason you made your move in the first place I don't give a rats *** what you do and I don't give a rats *** how it ends up but it will come back to haunt you and I do dearly hope it tears you down to the level that you began with...

  • B_Deserter
    B_Deserter
    "Justification" just repete this word over and over again and you will believe....

    So this is your counter-argument? "I give up" would have sufficed. All I'm doing is being honest, how is that bad? I do have feelings for her. She'll most likely say no. Just because I won't spiral into a feel-sorry-for-myself-cry-fest over it doesn't mean my feelings aren't legitimate.

  • BIG D
    BIG D

    Time to man up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Go get her, !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    big d

  • Odrade
    Odrade

    Would you want a woman who would be so disloyal as to dump her fiance and go be with you, the minute you tell her how you feel?

  • B_Deserter
    B_Deserter
    What does losing weight and martial arts have to with any of this? JW's are also against martial arts, you know. Or maybe you don't.

    Yeah...I guess when I get like this I tend not to separate thoughts very well. The losing weight and martial arts have nothing to do with her. They're just other risks I'd like to take. I'm at a state right now where all my thoughts are running together and when I spew them out it's like they connect even when they're unrelated.

  • B_Deserter
    B_Deserter
    Would you want a woman who would be so disloyal as to dump her fiance and go be with you, the minute you tell her how you feel?

    If she loves him, she won't dump him. If she doesn't, she will. I think it's far better to be with someone you really like as opposed to some misplaced "loyalty." If she doesn't love him and marries him anyway, that isn't loyalty, it's obligation. Obligation isn't a good foundation for a relationship.

  • Odrade
    Odrade

    Ah, so you're hoping to "save" her from some sort of imagined situation where she is engaged to a guy she doesn't love. Right. That's not delusional.

  • zeroday
    zeroday
    Would you want a woman who would be so disloyal as to dump her fiance and go be with you, the minute you tell her how you feel?

    He dosen't give a rats *** about loyalty it's all about him and what he wants and who he steps on to get it I just wish I could be there in a year or 2 when the ole hag get old and worthless and he moves on to new game...

  • Odrade
    Odrade

    ... or in a year or two when the next "hero" comes along and she dumps HIM because she found a new one.

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