by cognac 45 Replies latest jw friends
Heres another thing you can do...
In a nonconfrontational way ask him, who it was that brought this religion to him. Was it his parents or someone else?
Ask him, if he thinks these are happy people?
Most the time, people who who are attracted to the "Tooth" are sad and depressed people who want God to kill 6 billion people...so the can "be happy" in some future time.
just a thought
Mouthy is right...
Many of the elders are terrible gossips.
Be careful what you tell them.
By the way Cognac, I think you are doing a good job with your hubby. Use the soft approach and keep chipping away. Eventually you will succeed!
Peace to you!
The Oracle
my personal experience is that their wives are even worse gossips, given the chance.
I would think about it long and hard before confessing. If you don't believe it is the truth, why would you want to tell a bunch of men you barely know about your sex life, knowing they will blab it to their wives who will blab it all over the hall? You are setting yourself up to be gossiped about and humiliated. If you know it is the wrong thing to do, why encourage your husband to do it? Why not encourage him to see it your way, or the way some of the other Christians have mentioned to you? Why encourage him to go along with a system you no longer believe in?
If you do it just to prove a point, It strikes me as manipulative and if you do it without him, it is a betrayal of your trust.
Cog
If you do it just to prove a point, It strikes me as manipulative and if you do it without him, it is a betrayal of your trust.
Cog
Absolutly correct. My wife and I have been married for over forty years, but if she had ever went to the elders about anything we would not be married now.
Cognac,
I think you are so right in letting your husband decide how his conscience wants to deal with this. We each have to live with it. We all have to deal with our sins in our own way. All we can do is give him advice, in the long run he is the one that has to deal with his relationship with God. I say, encourage him to follow his heart, wherever that may lead him.
Love and hugs,
Velta
I've been warned. I keep saying little things to my husband, and he clearly won't budge any more then he already has.
I'm a Liberal and I expect to vote Republican. My wife is Democrat all the way. The point is, it has no effect on our marriage. Religion for some reason can have an effect on couples. I don't understand why, in some cases I wonder if there were other issues and religion was just a copout for some.
My suggestion, if you value your marriage, TIME is on your side. You don't have to get him to change today or tomorrow. Possibly you never will. Put some thought and discussion into preserving your marriage so religion doesn't come between the two of you.
I agree with DJK.
It's understandable you want to share with him what you are learning and hope that ya'll can leave the dubs together but try and remember this is something he has believed for a very long time...it's his FAITH. Don't expect to change it, well not quickly anyway, this stuff in ingrained. IMO just continue to grow and learn yourself and keep the lines of communcation open and hope something will get thru to him eventually.
well.............. you are gonna put some information together to show what the word REALLY MEANS and thus i take it, that if you have anything to confess........ it is to god not to a damn busybody elder........... and thus his wife.......... and her friends............. and her friends friends....... IE the whole circuit..........
if your husband wont read the information....... and is still feeling bad about something he has no reason to feel bad about........... consciences are funny that way.............. then hey without threatening you can say that you feel that he MUST get over this............ and if he cannot do it on his own........ stressing thats what you think he should do because its truely between you and him and god........... then to get him that peace you think that he should go and do whatever it takes for him to BELIVE he is forgiven.......... thus speaking to those elders.
you could say you see that its eating him up............ and he truely has no reason for it to be............ and that it would very likely RUIN your marriage if its not dealt with...... and even tho you truely wouldnt ever do it....... if he cant get his mind right........ and thats the only way he will let it go and move onto truely enjoying the marriage......... then he SHOULD go confess to men who sin even more than he THINKS he does.........
might make him open his eyes or get over it.................... without a single threat
ah Cognac, so begins the battle.
the most I can offer that if it wasn't for Jacob sleeping with a prostitue (his daughter in law) there would be no Jesus - Jehovah forgave Jacob !!!! I don't think it falls under forntication though.
Besides as long as he ""confesses"" to Jehovah (you still got to speak their language) his sin is as far removed like the east is from the west (add in scripture - can't remember it) He shouldn't feel the need to confess to man!!!! who is more important???
