Newbies - Tell Us What You Dealing with - Getting out of the Witnesses (page 3)

flipper

EVILETH- You are to be so admired for your courage to openly express how you overcame alcohol addiction ! I respect and admire your love of OOMPA ! You are a great example of what a person can accomplish with love, and fortitude ! Peace out sis, Mr. Flipper

Hortensia

Hi to all the new folks. I remember when I first faded I felt lonely, disconnected, and sort of like a visitor from another planet. Was trying to get to understand these strange "wordly" people and was very confused for a long time. It does get better - just keep putting one foot in front of the other, don't look back!

flipper

HORTENSIA- I agree- I think we all feel lonely at first getting out . It does feel odd too, but in time like you say we all find our niche where we belong in life. Well said by you

worldtraveller

I worked with my JW associate today, and I can only wish that someday I would be able to call him a true friend. But I cannot. I am trying to understand why he is like this, and I can tell you he is too damn gullible. We do have a lot in common. He is a true JW-too bad when we talk about our beliefs it always seems one sided.

Most of you here have encouraged me to be patient. I am trying hard. I think he knows it, but is trapped.

Aphrodite

It gets loads better. Sometimes though when you think you're perfectly normal, some old JW stuff comes up. and you go "what the...? where'd that come from?"

I have so many true friends now though, they are wonderfull. Some I had as friends before I left the JWs but they were "wordly" friends I had made through work.

Its funny, I told my friends that JW's consider them worldly people and they said they take that as a compliment. lol

flipper

WORLD TRAVELLER- Your friend is unfortunately " cult mind controlled". He can't think outside the " witness box ". I hope he sees the light some time.

APHRODITE- We all get flashbacks every now and then at times. Gawd, I still have dreams about assemblies and witness stuff. It may take me years . But I agree with you - I would also consider it a compliment to be called worldly

cognizant dissident

I would also consider it a compliment to be called worldly

So true, words only have the power we allow them to have. Remember how demonized the word "apostate" was in all our minds? The picture of morally, sexually depraved liars on their knees, weeping and knashing their teeth... lol Haven't met one like that yet. From the apostates I have met and talked to, (mostly from this board) it looks to me like the cream of the crop has left the JW's. I am proud to be an apostate now and consider myself in good company.

I am just waiting for some JW to call me one, so I can smile calmly at them and say, "You say that like it's a BAD thing?" lol.

wildfell

Jw's started losing their grip on me when I saw an expose by respected journalists on jw paedophilia-protecting policies and the damage they are doing to victims and their families. I was in turmoil over it. It dawned on me that the governing body has a sinister and evil side that they hide from view. I began to wonder what else they had been lying about . . . little did I know they were lying about ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING!!

I started to find out the truth about the so-called truth. I felt very distressed. I was MAD as hell. I had been scammed. So, Mr Flipper, you ask what am I dealing with? I am dealing with anger. I am wondering what on earth I could have done with my youth if I had just slammed the door on jehovahs witnesses years ago. I have a lot of regrets about missed opportunities. I have lost people I thought were my friends. It's still a painful time. It's a bit lonely.

BUT

I congratulate myself that I am a cult survivor. I am determined not to be bitter. I am determined to get revenge. How? They say living life well is the best revenge, and I am trying to do just that.

CHILD

I still get angry at times. It's been over 15 months since my last meeting. I'm still unlearning WT lies. Currently, I'm reading the bible on its own and distrust commentaries. My husband told a sister (a fellow coworker who mentioned reading the latest WT article) we dissasociated ourselves. She asked if this was true. I confirmed his statement and said after a family conference, we decided we no longer wished to be JWs. She said, "Well, you know you have to write a letter, don't you?"

When I was a teen in the 1980's and there was a popular phrase:" I don't have to anything except eat, breathe, live and die."

I immediately thought of that phrase and told her I no longer recognize the WTS' authourity.

She shunned us yesterday. I was shocked and insulted. Then I laughed when I realized we were never friends and she's deluded by that cult. I told my daughter and she was insulted for us.

hillbilly

Oompa....and all you other newbies.

Remember -living well is the best revenge. It's a lot like getting out of prison. Your culture has done all the thinking for you. Freedom is scary... be true to your inner self and grow from that place.

~Hill

Newbies - Tell Us What You Dealing with - Getting out of the Witnesses

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