My mother has used that line, and my response was always "They'll get over it." And I was right. Not one phone call, visit, or letter for almost 30 years from anyone in my old cong.
My wife says "They miss you at the Hall"
by OnTheWayOut 52 Replies latest jw friends
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OnTheWayOut
How about a simple, "Tell them I miss them too!" ?
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momzcrazy
Or "Bless her little heart!"
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fokyc
I get the same remark, at least 3 times a week, Sunday lunch time,
Tuesday after the book study and Thursday evening.
IF they are so interested in me, WHY don't they call on me or phone?
I've had this for about 13 years, gets a bit boring.
Remember 2003? Big push to visit ALL interested persons who had previously attended meetings,
Even 20 or 30 years previous!
Never saw or heard from one of them!
fokyc
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steve2
Sounds like your wife isn't quite hearing what you say and you're not quite hearing what she says, right? I wonder what she's needing to communicate to you? That the witnesses are genuine and loving people because they miss you? That she's uncomfortable about their comments and just wants you to go back to the meetings to get them off her back? Or that she's concerned about your wellbeing so uses others semingly positive comments to get you to go back?
Sometimes its easier for couples to talk about everything but the real issue. Whatever the real issue is, maybe the conversation needs to be about that?
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Finally-Free
What they are really saying is, "Why aren't you kissing ass like the rest of us?"
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uninformed
Gopher wrote:
It's very funny how they will spend hours in service and on Bible studies desperately trying to get a new believer to come, but can't even pick up the phone to try to revive a backsliding member.
Hey Goph-----------don't you even know what love is?
good observation
Brant
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nomoreguilt
My ex. was always coming home with that exact same line. It's subterfuge guilt reasoning on their part. It's a planned attack on us. Has nothing to do with any one individual at the hall. I would always wonder," Now why would sister or brother so-and so ask that?" They don't usually give a care about me anyways.
NMG
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Robert7
Most of the time when I hear "we missed you at the meeting" it usually was said in a way that means more like "Don't think we don't notice when you skip meetings. You really should be there". Less sincere and more judgemental.
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OnTheWayOut
Sounds like your wife isn't quite hearing what you say and you're not quite hearing what she says,
Steve2, we know each other pretty well. Much of our differences revolving around
the cult and my withdrawal are unsaid, but- she just feels an obligation to pass
along the comments of those at the hall."Tell OTWO we miss him." "I WILL."
She keeps her word. She is good at that. She has said that I don't have to feel
pressured to go to the meetings when we are visiting her family, even though I said
I would go along if she didn't want to explain to them. She said I didn't have to do
anything I didn't want to do, and when we visited her family, I didn't go.I am confident that my wife (by her actions, responses, etc.) is on the verge of
opening her mind and rejecting the WTS. I am just sad that this "verge" could hold
her for years. I push at it, but can only go so far before she shuts down.