Cognac, you're filled with zeal and enthusiasm!!!!
But take it easyyyyyyyyy.
You're BOMBARDING your husband with everything you feel. Just because you "get it", it doesn't mean everyone else will! You're a rare person. You see things and want out AND EXPECT your mate to simply follow suit. It just doesn't work like that. You don't make a person who believes he's got "The Truth" to see anything that you have to say. Even though he might not be well grounded in his knowledge, he still is a "believer". The hardest ones to get to think are the lazy ones. They're not used to using a critical mind. The Society feeds spiritual pablum and the uneducated are satisfied with not having to work any harder than sucking on a baby bottle. They keep things purposely simple and some people enjoy doing pretty much nothing and just accepting things.
Since you've already expressed your feelings, you need to calmly take ONE thing at a time. Get a common ground about something you know he feels negatively about and then help him to agree with the obvious, that bothers the two of you. Then LET HIM THINK about it.....Let him ruminate over whatever HE agrees with you on as the common ground and slowly let him see why you cannot lie and live a total lie forever. He should be able to see things from your perspective by emphasizing that you cannot be a hypocrite. You can't simply ignore the obvious. (Maybe he can and if that's the case, he has to either keep things between just the 2 of you or if he can't----expect a visit from the elders). If you tell the elders exactly how you feel, you will either be viewed as disassociated or df'd, eventually.
Good luck. I wish you well.
